Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello everyone,
DD was 2 days ago and I am in world of hurt.I just found out that my husband was talking with someone. I found a few messages that dated back to 10/2011. Back then and at that time we were going through a hard time. Cs has a drinking problem and I told him that I could not continue if he choose to kill himself with alcohol. So he signed up for AA and began an emotional affair(so he says)at that time. Not only were we dealing with that issue but we were also dealing with infertitity. Around 9/2011 we found out that CS had a small brain tumor that was affecting his hormones and that is why we could not have a child. So he started on a lot of meds and we began IVF April 2012 and became pregnant with my son. We just finished a 3rd round(the second attempt ended in miscarriage) last week and I am finding it all of this 7 days to late. I took a pregnancy test and it shows that I am pregnant :( in the last few days I have been digging and trying to find all the information I possibly could. CS is claiming that it lasted 15 months(the entire time I was pregnant) and he ended it after my son was born. I do not believe him and highly doubt it was only emotional. I called to get phone n text records but text only goes back 90 days. I can't make an informed decision until I have all the facts. If I was not pregnant I would just leave. I have a lot of questions and need advice.
Is there anyway to recover deleted emails from years ago?
Has anyone use polygraph tests to get the truth?
What did you do to help you get through the beggining when u found out? I am losing it here.
When key logging do you need to install on each device? IPad,computers,etc..
Are there any other avenues to find more info to get to the bottom of all of this?
Thank you for reading and I am sorry someone has made u feel the way I feel right now:(
DD was 2 days ago and I am in world of hurt.I just found out that my husband was talking with someone. I found a few messages that dated back to 10/2011. Back then and at that time we were going through a hard time. Cs has a drinking problem and I told him that I could not continue if he choose to kill himself with alcohol. So he signed up for AA and began an emotional affair(so he says)at that time. Not only were we dealing with that issue but we were also dealing with infertitity. Around 9/2011 we found out that CS had a small brain tumor that was affecting his hormones and that is why we could not have a child. So he started on a lot of meds and we began IVF April 2012 and became pregnant with my son. We just finished a 3rd round(the second attempt ended in miscarriage) last week and I am finding it all of this 7 days to late. I took a pregnancy test and it shows that I am pregnant :( in the last few days I have been digging and trying to find all the information I possibly could. CS is claiming that it lasted 15 months(the entire time I was pregnant) and he ended it after my son was born. I do not believe him and highly doubt it was only emotional. I called to get phone n text records but text only goes back 90 days. I can't make an informed decision until I have all the facts. If I was not pregnant I would just leave. I have a lot of questions and need advice.
Is there anyway to recover deleted emails from years ago?
Has anyone use polygraph tests to get the truth?
What did you do to help you get through the beggining when u found out? I am losing it here.
When key logging do you need to install on each device? IPad,computers,etc..
Are there any other avenues to find more info to get to the bottom of all of this?
Thank you for reading and I am sorry someone has made u feel the way I feel right now:(
The general rule is not to make any major decisions in the first 6 months of discovery. I'm sorry that your cs has put you in this position but glad you found DS. The road to rebuilding a marriage damaged from infidelity is a bumpy emotional roller coaster (at best) and that's with a compliant cs doing all the right stuff.
I hope you're H comes total clean with you and begins the hard work of regaining your love ands respect.
As far as recovering deleted emails and stuff yes it is possible, mostly in snippets not in full. It will require that you run checks on the specific computer that was used (I do not really know much about phones) Just do a little googling and research and there are several programs that can try to find the stuff. Some of them offer a free "trial" which will only return just a few responses. The best ones seem to be ones you buy. The one I used (well there were several I tried) but the one that gave the best responses was one you buy and I ran it on two computers and it found deleted emails, facebook messages, and pictures. It was still not to the extent I had hoped as a lot of it was just partials but it was enough to give me a much better overall picture of what happened and was able to confront her with the info and get her to admit to a lot more.
I hate to hear of cheating when young kids are involved and I have an extra bit of dislike for a CS when its guys who cheat on pregnant wives (and I guess women who cheat while the guy thinks they are becoming a "family" ) So sorry to hear you are going through this at this time, try to take deep breaths and keep the stress as low a possible for the baby inside (I know much much easier said than done). And I agree with pinkpony do not make any quick, rash decisions, for one you do not have all the facts and also it is not a time where you can think clearly. You do thought need to make sure that during whatever time you are debating and weighing your options that he is doing his part.