Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have endured years of a spouse that has cheated more than once,gotten a coworker pregnant, had secret emotional affairs with other women, secretly tries to talk to women on facebook, and God knows what else...I tried I really tried to make this work... but he is disrespectful to me , our kids, he belittles me and call me so many disrespectful names. we literally dread to see him come home sometimes. I don't think I have anything left in me to keep dealing with this.... I want to leave.... but he is very vengeful because he pays all the bills and our home and my car is in his name... he throws up in my face that he is my bread and butter and this is his house and his car and I can get the f*** out and I won't make it without him...because I cannot afford to pay my bills... he makes it clear i wouldnt have nothing if it wasnt for him.....he says how any other woman would love to have a hard working man like him and even his family knows he is a jerk and they feel like he makes good money so i need to just deal with his crazy a** and he tells me if i met another man they would just use me for sex because i dont have nothing else to offer....I want to leave but I have no money to leave with and no family to help me..... I have children so I can't live on the streets. I have put up with this for way too long and I don't deserve this....I have a job but rent alone for an apartment would probably take my entire check.... please help me on what do I do to try to get on my feet in the likely event we seperate...where do I start ? please help me with advice....
As betrayedtodeath said, there are lawyers who will not charge for an initial consultation.
You have rights as a spouse. I do not think it matters that the car is in his name. No court is going to leave you without a car and him with two. Find out what your rights are where you live.
Yes, you do need to squirrel away money. You can buy things with a debit card, then return them, and they have to give you cash. Sometimes you can buy stuff at the grocery store, clip coupons, take your receipt to customer service, present the coupons and they will give you cash. It all starts to add up. Sell stuff on Ebay - his stuff, of course! Paypal is a good place to hide money.
It's unlikely your H would check to see if you have an account.
You need a friend you can rely on. Choose carefully. Start removing things from the house and hiding them with your friend.
Your H is abusive and dangerous. He is a serious threat to you and your children. But you do have to act like things are "normal" so your H does not catch wind of what you are up to.
Good luck!
If you truly have the desire to leave him, there is always a way, but you have to do the work, no one will come and rescue you. To do it effectively, you'll have to be all in, get a plan going, and stick to it. There's no going back once you get this ball rolling.
I would also advise you get a free consultation with a lawyer to discover what your rights are and what you're entitled to. Take a friend or sibling with you, it helps to have two sets of ears to hear and remember everything the lawyer says.
Speaking to people in private and asking for their help can empower you and give you a sense of control over your destiny.
It may seem like a lot to handle since you'll have to be the one to get the ball rolling, but small and focused steps will eventually lead to success and freedom.
I wish you well.