Never trust those sneaky Russians...

Seriously, I think that's just something trumped up for the media to make him more interesting.

Ever see the movie "Hall Pass?" Same thing. Anybody "can" cheat if they want to. It's dealing with the consequences.

Kind of like dieting. I don't do that. I never say this or that is off my menu. I just eat what I want in moderation. As soon as I say, "None of this," that's when I obsessively want it.

Hey, if it works for them, so be it. But I think it's nonsense for me. A marriage isn't a game.

Stupid. I did not give my ex permission to cheat and he did. I find some people do whatever the hell they want to as long as they are happy. They are the only one they are concerned about, not their spouse's feelings.

Its an interesting take on things - there is that whole hidden appeal to trying to cheat and hide and sneak around.

If you allow someone to do something - perhaps they won't want to really do it.

If this is in the NBA or whatever they live in a different world - sort of like what you see on the cover of People magazine - most folks should be Concentrating on helping out each other and their families.

Trying to better their situation - not trying to screw up everyones lives for some fun and excitment that in the end could get you a disease and ruin all that you have worked hard for - unless you havn't worked hard that is - then it's easier to screw up your life and throw everything away for some stupid action I suppose.

I say if it works for them then so be it. Each couple is different & may have their own set of rules. They are not hurting anyone with the way they conduct their relationship. If it's ok for them then why point the finger with biased opinions.

I personally would not agree to give my partner a pass to be with anyone, but hey..if it works for them then I hope it continues to keep them happy & content with one another. It's their right. I just hope she knows what she may be agreeing to. Hope it doesn't backfire.

I've often wondered if I was, to the OM and his wife, a 'hall pass' gone wrong. I saw her look the other way way in our friendship while he assessing an affair with his secretary. My H and I knew it, and figured she must have known, too. Maybe she was just too ashamed to mention it. But every year he would send her and the kids on vacation a couple of weeks ahead of him, and then do as he pleased while they were gone. I think she knew. I think it was an unspoken hall pass, where she would turn a blind eye and then what she didn't know wouldn't hurt her.

Her best friend from before they met, a woman he got involved with briefly when they had first met, has a child of just the right age who looks exactly like the kids they had together. That was a pass, for sure.She knew all about it and just let it slide.

I suspect the worst of this for her was not that be cheated, or that it was with me, but that we failed to let her keep bet head in the sand. We failed at discretion, is all. It was fine as long as it wasn't in her face.

"way in our friendship while he assessing an affair" should have been "look the other way during our friendship while he was having an affair"

there are a lot of spouses of politicians or other people in positions of power who understand the arrangement is to "look away", or heck, even cultures in Europe, where mistresses are a given, as long as they and their husbands are discreet and dont bring shame on the family they too "look away"

having been with someone whose goal was to be in the halls of political power, I made it very clear I wasnt going to be one of those wives who looks the other way, I could only ever imagine doing that if I married for money or status and not for love

I dont have the heart to withstand it, without feeling damage done to me on some level

Nah, likely she cheats, so it's a balm to her conscience.