hi, my name is beth. just a month ago my husband admitted to me he was unfaithful in a "affair" he was having with my niece. i told him it couldnt be an affair, she is just a child, that he needed some serious mental help. in some not so nice words and tone of voice. he told me "i love her like i love you and i cant help my feelings".....those words have stuck with me and for some reason i cant let them go. i dont blame her, shes only 12 and doesnt even know what love is. however he was teaching her that love was sex. she and i are going through therapy. i havent seen her since we where told to leave the house when the cops came to question him. he lied to me when i asked him....is this true? he told me no and we went to his best friends to live. he called everyone, including my mother trying to convience them that she was lying and he was innocent. then one night he took a drive "to clear his head"....and i had the sinking feeling that oh my God....hes guilty. he tried to burn down the evidence in the house he took her to. so not only was he caught red handed so to speak but he was sorry he was caught.

i moved in with my parents, starting my life off from where i was before i started dating him. we knew each other since childhood and he always was the perfect friend. but 2 years ago he changed, started treating me more like a stranger than a lover and now that i think on it i know why. ive always looked young for my age. im now 31 but when i was first dating him i looked 12 at 21 and 2 years ago i started to gain weight and change into a woman. now i look more like 25 than a child. i think and know now that this is the reason he was with me. not only that but my friends and family brought it to my attention before i spoke of what i had suspected and we all came to the same conclusion.

im hurting spiritually and emotionaly and did not realize till i sought therapy that he was being abusive our whole marriage. 9 years of what i thought was happy was in realization, tiresome minipulated love that in all sense was lust. i decided to do a background check after he was arrested and found 14 different dating sites with his fake names he jokingly liked to use. not to mention after i moved in with my parents my brother told me he was arrested several times while we lived in another city away from family. he had lied to me enough and i filled for divorce. i dont think i will be able to sleep well until the divorce is finalized. which i was told will take 3 months since he is in jail. i thank God for showing me the truth so soon. and i pray every day that my niece will become a healthy young woman who does not depend on men.

i could use some friends right now who have been in similar situation. i lost all my friends once i married the jerk and its been hard.