turn you urges onto something else.
when people have anger issues or chocolate cravings, they need to focus in another direction.
Do you realize that your cheating is simply selfish? You have the urge, and you do it. Then you use the excuse that he was mean? Is he mean the same time every year, or is this a way of changing your view to compensate for your deception?
Find a different outlet. Go to the gym and work up a sweat or something. I am sure there are many ways to releive your aching needs, or to get past the mental desires. Write a book. Don\'t do the act.

I think that BOTH sides of infidelity are represented on this website. I\'m not an expert by far but I feel that sometimes its hard to give help/advice on a situation when their is so much emotion and anger during an affair. You need to look inside and try to find out why you need to look outside your marriage. What is it that you are looking for or craving?

Sometimes chocolate just won\'t do it. However, try to make smart and healthy choices for yourself because having a full on affair is NOT FUN>its dangerous to you and others. Its hard and messy to get out of and most times you\'ll be the one that gets left behind with nothing and you\'ll find yourself on a website trying to figure things out-feeling your the underdog in a situation THAT SUCKS FOR EVERYONE!

That being said-Good luck. I think only you can determine why you need extra affection in your life. Be it from your spouse, another man, or your children.

Have you talked about this with him directly? Specifically told him this - in a calm way - not in an argument. Don\'t present it as a threat - so he thinks he has to walk on pins and needles around you or you will cheat -- more of a way for you to find other ways of dealing with those problems and feelings (his AND yours) together - different ways. I think avoiding things is what leads to more problems. Its hard to deal with something head on - to fight - to argue - and guys hate to see girls crying...but i think its much better and more healthy than holding it all in and then doing something you regret or exploding. If you dont talk about it / try to deal with it - it will just keep happening. Both his feelings - the way he treats you that makes you feel bad .... and your feelings (which is also a way you treat him that would make him feel bad).
I dont know - i think i\'ve heard this a lot and i dont know who said it but i always think about it ....you cant change how people act , but you can change how you react to them....and sometimes i think that can help the whole situation change for both parties.

women no.. yeah i agree with her,turn your urges elsewhere, and you have kids.. do u want them to grow up and knwo what bad things mommy has done, they will looose all respect for you.. i promise. and you are young, and have to knwo that marriage and relationships have their ups and downs,.. big time.. and he will be mean, and so will you, but thats just the way it is.. cheating wont help anything..

YOU'LL STOP WHEN SOMEBODY DROP KICKS YOUR AZZ!!!!!! IT APPEARS YOU DON"T LOVE YOURSELF..THEREFORE YOU CAN"T LOVE ANOTHER.....AND NO OFFENSE CAUSE I LOOOOVE EVRYBODY HERE...BUT ALOT OF WHITE PEOPLE GET MARRIED TOO YOUNG...YOU HAVEN'T HAD A CHANCE TO EXPERIENCE LIFE, DATING, AND THE LIKE. I JUST FIND IT HARD TO BELIEVE THAT 19 YEAR OLDS CAN GET MARRIED AND LAST PAST 7 YEARS.....BOTH ARE TOO YOUNG AND WAY IMMATURE

GO AND TALK WITH A PROFESSIONAL ABOUT THIS

I think recognizing it is the first step toward doing something about it. I am quite a bit older than you but I have not forgotten things I did when I was younger. I never had a good relationship with my own father. I was always looking to please him and fell short every time (at least from my perspective then). When I started getting whistled at by men it really boosted my self esteem. Sad but true. I would seek out and enjoy attention from men. After I married I realized what I was doing and how wrong it was for me to behave that way. I am not saying that you are doing what I did, I am just telling you I understand and that I think maybe you have an opportunity here to do something about it if you want.

Im just going to have to say you were 15 when you got with him and then still a teenager when you got married. neither one of you had a chance to sew ANY oats. You were WAY too young.

Its time to talk to a counselor. The real problem may be that you never had a chance to "be a child" and a growing woman either. been there, done that, got the tshirt.