I'm sorry you're going through this. It's very possible there is more going on than what you know. Cheaters only admit to what they're caught with. They do not volunteer the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. That feeling you have? It's intuition. Listen to it. You feel like you can't trust him? Most likely it's with good reason. Seek individual counseling for yourself to help you work through this. Please get tested for STDs.

Im going through the same thing. My husband was sexting with a coworker years ago. I found out and he swore he would never do it again. It took me years to get over it. Recently I found out he was talking to a coworker on the phone almost daily for the past two months. He swears they are just friends and like to gossip about work. he hid it from me because of his guilt from the past. He said she even offered to call me to say nothing is going on. I can only think of two reasons to talk on the phone so often with a coworker of the opposite sex..talking dirty or forming a relantionship. Im at a loss at what to do. I cant stop checking up on him even though I know it is so destructive and counter productive. I just dont know what to do. :(

You have trust your gut and plain and simple if a situation or friendship makes you uncomfortable your spouse needs to respect that.

And where people of the opposite sex can be friends, if they have done something in the past to disprove it you have every right to question. And they should respect that.

A genuine healthy marriage should only be between two people and those two people put each other first above all things. If they aren't doing it before the marriage they won't change after. If he desires all that you do and is sincere he will work through all this with you even if it means counseling.

Don't enable him, take control and be firm on this. Your gut is right.

He maintains he is doing nothing wrong. I want to beleive him and stop thinking about it but I dont know how. I deactivated facebook to get away from the drama. I guess I will work on getting myself to a healthier state of mind.

I know exactly how you are feeling. I went through something similar.

When I was with my H I felt great. He would leave for work and I would be flooded with all kinds of anxiety - as it turns out - with good reason.

Accept the fact that there is more to this story. Betrayedtodeath is right.

You need to find out what is really going on. My H was pretty much living a double life. How long he was going to keep that up is anyone's guess. Remember, too, that once caught these cheaters just get sneakier.

You need to remember that if they are having sex, they are bonding. Sex creates oxytocin, the love hormone. Think mother and baby.

The sooner that relationship is exposed and ended the better it is for you.

Stop putting yourself down. You are not a loser. You are just feeling very vulnerable.

Speak up and tell your fiance that this relationship he is having is hurting you. You need to be his one and only. He needs to leave this other woman alone.

Do not be afraid to call this other woman yourself and tell her to back off.

If I were you I would talk to a lawyer. Right now you are not married and he can just walk away.
Marriage does give you certain rights. Plus it would also send a very strong message to the OW.
I am only advocating this because you have children together. You already have a de facto family you need to protect.

Cheaters hide things- that's what they do. There is NO room in your marriage for this other woman. Your husband invited her into his life........and yours. Please read Chump Lady's blog. She knows all about things like this.

I know you don't want to believe whats going on and you want to believe him. And nothing may be going on, its just suspicious enough and he doesn't give you enough assurance or transparency to feel fully comfortable.
I understand that completely but please think about this, by deleting your facebook because you don't want the drama is exactly what he wants and is giving him more power. Now he is not being 'watched'.
One think you could do is suggest that you share his facebook or have his password to still check out your friends posts, couples do that and its a valid request. If he has nothing to hide he will do so willingly. My husband and I know each others social media accounts.

it is possible that he wants you anxious and afraid... if so, run

It is always a sad thing to find yourself in such a spot as the investigator with your own partner because I was in this situation some months back,yet I didn't get him becuse he's a smart husband. A friend introduced me to this hacker cybernnectic at gmail com his work is amazing. I was able to read my husband chats with his mistress and calls.

I guess the whole facebook thing is a big part of the problem. I deleted it in a vain attempt to stop spying on him. I thought by removing the apps and such would stop me from logging onto his account. Sadly it hasnt.