Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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chewdy 09/01/2009

I am back at work and H still out on disability . Fianally came clean after a friends sister gave me the truth that I was looking for. Now H says that he is telling me the truth and not sure how to believe what he is telling me. I have her name home phone number nad husbands name and would like to call her husband.The informant that works with this OW does not know who it is and if she finds out , I'll know that H tolds her.We talked to her on the phone and told her that we are working on our marriage. Now after all this time I'm not sure that I want too too many lies. He told me another name of someone that liked him to get me off track about this one. He has continuously lied to me since I found out May 16.All the lies are what hurts the most , because I believed that he was telling me some truth...
I have recently heard that this OW has been looking kinda rough at work latley and not happy... so maybe ther is some clossure with her. I just don't know when and if I can try to trust again.

deleted_user 09/01/2009

i really feel for you. An affair is bad enough but the only way forward is to be honest and if he can't be that how can you trust him? I think there are two kinds of liars in this scenario, ones who just dont want to tell the truth because they dont want to hurt you anymore and are really sorry, and ones who are real b****ds and dont have a real consience. you need to think hard about which it is, what is like the rest of the time? is he trying to make you feel better? is he usually a good man? I couldnt answer these questions about my husband but someone suggested a key logger and to check out online phone bills etc. I didnt like prying but it did give me peace of mind and built up trust over time. whatever you do dont waste time with him if he wont put you first after what he's done, you're worth more x

chewdy 09/01/2009

Doesn't want to tell the truth because it will hurt me , that's the liar he is! He is trying to make me feel better, he usally is a good man.What is a key logger? His phone is a work phone and I have no access to the bill. I am just so hurt with all the lies one right after another.

deleted_user 09/02/2009

I am sorry for all the pain you are going throuugh. My H was using his work phone for 6 months after D day to contact OW. I asked him to get me a copy of the bill from work. He said he couldn't at first and I told him"you get the phone bill or my lawyer will"
I knew he had contacted her but not how much. He did get the phone bill for me within 2 days of me asking for it. And yep, he had called her 14 times in 6 months! And we had said NO CONTACT!
Anyway, IF your H is really wants to work on your relationship he should be willing to get copy of his phone bill.
Hugs and best of luck!

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