Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My wife had an affair at the end of March. We separated until about 6 weeks ago. We started therapy and things were going well. We've had a few rough patches overcame them. We're suppose to be moving to Texas as I got a work promotion. This was offered before the affair. So we just signed a 6 month lease at a new apartment. So yesterday morning our daughter was playing with my wife's phone. So I grabbed it and saw some texts that made me question us. I didn't bring it up, they were to her best friend (female) I saw a couple pictures of a pregnancy test and that she hooked up with AP again before he moved to Colorado. I confronted her about how things are going between us and what it will take to make it work. She says she loves me and wants it to work, but again she doesn't want to make it work. She struggles from bipolar depression. I don't think she's being honest with me. I just don't know what to do again. I'm tied to the lease now, and not sure if I say I looked at her phone and saw the texts and call her out on her lies or not? Again I'm not sure the date of them as my daughter could have scrolled way up on the texts. Do I wait to see if she's pregnant and then throw the divorce in her face and take our daughter or what?
1. This "friend" knew about the affair?
2. You should know all of her passwords (she should know all of yours too) to her phone, social media ect...
You should be able to pick up her phone and go through it...
Be smart about how you go digging though. You don't want her to have any advance notice, obviously.
The laws are different in Texas. It is a community property state. You need to learn which state will benefit you - should you decide to split. Maybe you could have a consultation with a family law lawyer over the phone. Go see a lawyer where you are.
This pregnancy test thing is worrisome. She must think the kid is his.
Things do not look good from what you posted. So based on that, I think you need to get busy and get your ducks in a row. Good luck!
2) You love her, which means this is going to be hard. You say you'll leave now, but once the baby gets here, even if its not yours. You may stay longer for the roller coast ride, geesh.
3) How did you marry, was she already preggos and you wanted to do the right OR you really loved her and got married?
I really want this to work for you and your daugther. But there are good women out there. However, you're so scared to jeopardize it that you don't want to even confront your own friend to find out info.
Ps. Talked to her she said hooked up with him one more time while we were separated still. I also had her take a pregnancy test was negative.
Dig around deep to find out all her lies if you dig and you don't find deceit, then love her while she finds herself (((bullshit phrase that means "I fucked you over but don't blame me" )))
If you find deceit , run
She ain't into being married.
You are- but one person does not make a marriage work.
Honestly, if i were you, I'd confront her about it. That's something she should discuss with you. You seem like a very nice guy and you do not deserve to be cheated on. Especially because there is a child involved. It seems like she's just a little selfish. It isn't only hurting you, but y'alls daughter as well. I hope you find a resolution. Stay strong!