Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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need help please

JessicaLeighton
JessicaLeighton
Why do men cheat in the beginning of relationships? And why don't they open up and explain what them cheating? My husband has cheated and I need help. I'm having a hard time understanding with no real facts or explanations.
Cole50
Cole50
With any one person, it could be different reasons. The bottom line, however, is to bolster a low self-esteem. I explored that question in an article:

How Could He Have Done This to Me?
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2013/08/how-could-he-have-done-this-to-me.html

And in one question from my New BS FAQ:
Why won't my spouse talk to me about the affair? He's not telling me everything.
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/p/help-for-new-betrayed-spouses.html#Q4
distancemj
distancemj
people in general tend to cheat more at the beginning because they are not sure how invested they will be into the relationship. BUt it goes beyond the beginning, it can be at any point in the relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
People cheat because they are selfish scum bags, the timing is only a matter of their particular needs.
happymama2j
happymama2j
agree w rockjaw. it's out of selfishness, and they'll do it whenever it suits them, and/or whenever the opportunity arises.
Lenoire
Lenoire
I'm sorry you have found yourself in this situation. You need as much information about his infidelity as possible. Gets the facts and the details of his infidelity.

Cheaters cheat for many different reasons, and they often don't know why they did it.

This is a process that he has to go through before either of you can bring about any change.

I wish you strength.