Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have been happily married for 11 years with who I thought was the woman of my dreams. We we were in a car accident a couple years ago and after a over a year my wife got better and I got nerve damage that has gotten worse. I started to hate myself and feel like junk ant trash because of this. Well my wife got a job and within the her first 6 months she meets someone younger and has an affair with the kid. I tried to kill myself and failed. I am glad because I have a wonderful 8 year old boy that I cannot betray him like that. So because it is so bad I was admitted under 72 hour watch. In that time I got to meat myself again and regain what I had lost over the last 2 years ready to take on the world again. While there I had thought about how it would go when I got home. Would I be welcomed? Would I be hated? Would I catch her in her infidelity lie? Well it was the lie. I come home unannounced and the guy was in my bedroom and and I found out he was having sex and sleeping in my bed with my son in the home while I was in the hospital. I really cannot trust her anymore but I have to still life with her for the time being. I am sleeping in my Son's room with him because I want to burn the bed. I just want to find a job and move on with my life as a father. Any advice to help me cope and get through this with the least amount of animosity and strife wbecause of my Son?
Is your wife willing to cut the other guy out of her life? If she did, would you be willing to delay divorce and see what might happen in therapy? It sounds like your marriage was in need of some work even before she made the terrible choice to have a side relationship. Maybe it can all be dealt with?
And yes, get rid of the bed if you are going to keep living there.
Yeah we were both going down hill ever since the accident. Her affair only made it go nuculur.
Well she will probably move out of here or her boy will move in with her. I really don't know what will happen. I will surly do what ever I can to be as close to my Son.
My stbex wanted me to "wait 2 weeks for him to figure out how to not live 2 women at the same time." Then he went on to say "I can't guarantee that I'll be back or that I won't want to continue to live her."
He wanted me to wait for him (after he ripped my heart out, blindsiding me all the while)!!!!!
My only response to that (we have children also) was "I will NEVER" be second choice to anyone!! Either you love me & only me, or there is no us."
I filed for divorce 8/24 & we've only been split up since 8/3!
Never let someone decide if you're good enough for them!
You're good enough for you and your boy & someday, you'll be the best thing that has ever happened to a woman & she will be a part of your past.
Good luck with strength, everyday is HELL, but it only lasts for a little while.
HUGS!!!!!!
I'm so sad for you that you feel so bad about yourself that you would allow that and subsequently that is being projected onto your son. Please don't.