Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hi everyone, i just joined up on the website and wanted to give my story to see if anyone can provide me some feedback on what i should do or ideas on moving on with my life.
I am 32yrd who would have been married to my wife 5 years in July. We had been together for a total of almost 12 years. Since the beginning of the year, I sensed distance between us and finally confronted her about a month ago. She then said she needed space and was thinking about moving out.. After prodding her, I had found out that she had already had a place since the beginning of the year and she was renting with her mothers money and had been seeing a person at her apartment while she was at work. I was of course shocked, but didnt realize understand the magnitude of this relationship. I soon found out that she was very attached to this person who also had a pregnant wife and 1 yr son at home. My wife and I both have a great son together. I've had to come to grips that i need to let her go and live her life and find out if thats what she wants, but i do still love her and want her to come back. Am i just crazy or is it too soon to really think rationale. I've been overly nice to her to maintain that friendship at least since she is the mother of my son. I still have my whole life ahead of me, but these past years it has only been about being together with her. I've convinced myself that if she ever were to break up with this person i would try to win her back, but i also want to feel like she didn't settle with me. Things are very muddled since i am trying to do whats best for my son, but honestly it hurts every day to act the opposite of how you feel. My ex is very emotional. she knows what she does is wrong, but i can't yell at her with risk about damaging what little i have left of our friendship and connection we can have with our son together as parents. Anyone have any words of wisdom or advice?
I am 32yrd who would have been married to my wife 5 years in July. We had been together for a total of almost 12 years. Since the beginning of the year, I sensed distance between us and finally confronted her about a month ago. She then said she needed space and was thinking about moving out.. After prodding her, I had found out that she had already had a place since the beginning of the year and she was renting with her mothers money and had been seeing a person at her apartment while she was at work. I was of course shocked, but didnt realize understand the magnitude of this relationship. I soon found out that she was very attached to this person who also had a pregnant wife and 1 yr son at home. My wife and I both have a great son together. I've had to come to grips that i need to let her go and live her life and find out if thats what she wants, but i do still love her and want her to come back. Am i just crazy or is it too soon to really think rationale. I've been overly nice to her to maintain that friendship at least since she is the mother of my son. I still have my whole life ahead of me, but these past years it has only been about being together with her. I've convinced myself that if she ever were to break up with this person i would try to win her back, but i also want to feel like she didn't settle with me. Things are very muddled since i am trying to do whats best for my son, but honestly it hurts every day to act the opposite of how you feel. My ex is very emotional. she knows what she does is wrong, but i can't yell at her with risk about damaging what little i have left of our friendship and connection we can have with our son together as parents. Anyone have any words of wisdom or advice?
Only you can decide. I need what I need and you need what you need. I need honesty, loyalty, decency and commitment. Those are musts for me. No negotiating.
Best of luck to you.
I guess for me. reconciliation is not available. The wife is doing her thing while i try to figure out how to proceed with my life. I definitely believe that if the opportunity arose to reconcile that I would have to believe that she wasn't settling or that i wasn't either.
I tell myself that whoever i ended up with would have to love my son as much as me. And unfortunately with all my wife's mistakes, she is going to love my son the most.
That definitely is the hardest part. knowing what you would need to do to keep a relationship together and not be given the opportunity to do it.
Not too long ago my fiance cheated on me, and I too know that perhaps I wasn't the most fantastic partner. When it happened, I was rather rational, calm, and I did not yell at her or try to get revenge. I was kind and tried to make it work. Unfortunately its hard to trust again. Honesty and openness is the only way to go now. In the end though, if there are things you think you need to improve, do so. But do not lose who you are, and think of your son.
Good luck, and keep your stick on the ice. We'll all be pulling for you.