Things will never be the same - truth! That doesn't mean they won't get better.

There are sooo many people here on DailyStrength (and of course in the world in general) who have grown stronger and braver and done things they never thought possible - all because infidelity caused the bottom to drop out of their world. I don't think I will ever be able to say that my husband's affair was a blessing, but I will say it was the catalyst for the best changes in our lives to date. Even if we had not stayed together, we are so much better for the changes we have made in ourselves and in the way we treat each other and the other people around us.

That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt like hell or that you don't have a right to your pain and loss and fear and anger. Healing hurts. Change hurts. Loss hurts. Know that you will come out the other side, though and that you are not alone.

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I too was married for 22 years and have endured a very similar 'Mac truck' situation when I discovered iPhone sexting messages between my husband an a coworker. My husband refused to stop seeing her and then flipped claiming he wanted to stayed married to me. I was relieved at first then the fear and panic set in. I could not function I lost tons of weight. I then discovered he had again gone back to cheating with the same person. It's been 7 months since d day. He moved it he end of January. I can honestly say even though you feel like your world is upside down you Will get through this and you will be ok. I promise. If you want to chat anytime just get in touch. I can offer support.

So sorry for your pain. My husband cheated on me after 32 years of marriage. It is the most devasting feeling to be betrayed that way. Its been 1 1/2 years for me and it does get easier with time. Its not something you ever forget, but somehow you keeping moving forward a day at a time. Keep your head up.

It sounds like you made the right decision. Actions speak volumes. Wishing you peace!

My H cheated after 15 years. I kicked him out and divorced him but he wants back and it has been the hardest thing I've ever gone thru. We all understand all too well the gut wrenching soul churning burning in the pit of your stomach pain that only those of us that have lived it can understand. Things will not ever be the same. Give yourself time, when I kicked my H out like you did I didn't really deal with the pain at first. I was so busy divorcing him that I didn't allow myself time to really think and feel. I think if I had moved slower on that and given myself time to grieve and process that maybe I wouldn't be co side ring reconciliation. No easy answers. We all understand. Hugs to you.

Been together with my wife for 16 years. She had sex with a co-worker on a job trip. The usual, hotel trips and evening drinks after the working day. She told me after the event which was 4 years ago in 2012. She told me when she got a postnatal depression and psychosis. I thought she was just saying she had a one night stand due to her psychotic episode but she was telling me truth. 3 months on with a 7 month only baby involved it hurts like hell. Constantly thinking about it all the time. I asked why and she said she was feeling insacure in our marriage as when we argued I tended to bring up the divorce word or say it's not working. She said hearing these words for many years in big arguments made her feel always unsafe in our marrage and not loved. I blame myself for her feeling like she does and I can never amend her feeling the last year's. But does that make me responsible for her on night stand? I aswell felt unloved and did have offers to sleep with people but I didn't. I could have and wanted to but didn't. I love her like crazy and we have a child now. The last 4 years feels like a huge lie as she kept it from me. She said she hated it and make a huge mistake. She was week unhappy in our marriage, and with a combination of wine, hotel room and a co-worker who made the first move it just happend. We are seeking help which is good but my mind is in a shit storm.

I no what you are through, I recently found out that my husband was cheating on me 2 days ago after 28 yrs of marriage he pulls this crap. I'm so hurt right now I don't no what to do I'm numb I recorded him talking to his mistress and some of the things he was saying to her broke my heart, I still love him but I can't trust him anymore I never saw it coming, I no he loves me and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me but the trust is broken he lied so much I was always suspicious of him and ask him about it he made it seem as though I was crazy, the thought of him with her drives me crazy I don't no what to do. Please help me out what should I do