Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I have hardly ever posted here. My husband had an emotional affair that turned physical during 1994-96. He admitted the full truth to me about a year ago, and we've been in counseling and moving on. He has no contact with the OW (except the few times he sees her at work). He always tells me if he has to speak to her...they don't work in the same department, and rarely need to have any contact. (We've been married over 31 years and this was his only time to cheat...we had a ton of issues at the time and I played a part in what happened, not cheating myself, but totally pushing him away)
Anyway, another long time co-worker was killed this last weekend. She worked in the same department as the OW. Many of them will be going to the calling hours this afternoon, of course my husband must go because he knew the deceased for 27 years.
I know in my head that he can easily avoid any contact with the OW, but my brain won't let it go today. It's really eating at me, to the point where I even mentioned it was bugging me this morning. I don't expect my husband to skip these calling hours, but why is is bugging me so much?
Part of me wants him to have to tell me he crossed paths with OW so I can be mad at him. That seems insane to me, but I can't stop the thoughts.
Just venting, and thought perhaps someone here could give me some insight. Thanks.
Anyway, another long time co-worker was killed this last weekend. She worked in the same department as the OW. Many of them will be going to the calling hours this afternoon, of course my husband must go because he knew the deceased for 27 years.
I know in my head that he can easily avoid any contact with the OW, but my brain won't let it go today. It's really eating at me, to the point where I even mentioned it was bugging me this morning. I don't expect my husband to skip these calling hours, but why is is bugging me so much?
Part of me wants him to have to tell me he crossed paths with OW so I can be mad at him. That seems insane to me, but I can't stop the thoughts.
Just venting, and thought perhaps someone here could give me some insight. Thanks.
You posting tells me YOU ARE TRYING to cope. So, let your H know as well.
Gypsy, that post was completely dead on. I agree that talking it through with your H is the MOST important thing.
I'm 3 weeks from DDay and some days are better than others. The marriage counseling is helping and H is helping too, as strange as that sounds.
But I am hanging in there.
As far as going with him, the calling hours were from 3-5, there were no evening hours. And I don't ever want to see the OW again. Long before their affair, we did some social events with her and her husband. I knew years ago that she liked my husband, and also knew she would divorce her own husband once their girls were in high school. Her husband was an idiot.
I even warned my husband about 10 years ago about her. That made the whole thing worse in some ways...the really stupid thing is she is the type of woman I could be friends with. When my husband told her we were going to go to counseling and he wouldn't be talking/seeing her anymore, she totally backed off and respected his wishes. Part of me wanted her to persue him so I could confront her. Again, another stupid thought.