Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Another one of my questions I was never cheated on before my wife had her affair with the mayor of crazytown some slime ball 9 years older than both of us who had 2 previous divorces a protection order domestic violence bankruptcy a list of other major stupid awesome achievements that I have found out.
Me never smoked a cigarette dont drink awesome job never cheated basically a normally dude who likes soccer-lacrosse-and fishing exercise. Normal stuff.
Ok on to the question when I watch movies now I see family situations it hurts when I see movies with crazy things I can now relate I used to love watching all kinds of movies still do but there is a sting to some of them now that never occurred before same thing with TV shows and music as well (when I hear the lyrics).
From the BS side I can assume we have these triggers and stings or hurts - this will probably fade in time .
From the WS side I also wonder if they have these same feelings. I knew my STBX has never been to the movies since this whole thing happened (we used to go all the time). Wonder if they have triggers as well I have 180'd my STBX and basically cut her out of my life like a cancer in order to save my life. Both sides are welcomed to please answer.
Me never smoked a cigarette dont drink awesome job never cheated basically a normally dude who likes soccer-lacrosse-and fishing exercise. Normal stuff.
Ok on to the question when I watch movies now I see family situations it hurts when I see movies with crazy things I can now relate I used to love watching all kinds of movies still do but there is a sting to some of them now that never occurred before same thing with TV shows and music as well (when I hear the lyrics).
From the BS side I can assume we have these triggers and stings or hurts - this will probably fade in time .
From the WS side I also wonder if they have these same feelings. I knew my STBX has never been to the movies since this whole thing happened (we used to go all the time). Wonder if they have triggers as well I have 180'd my STBX and basically cut her out of my life like a cancer in order to save my life. Both sides are welcomed to please answer.
Example the movie "blouseman" he immeidately forgives his wife for affair. Man that set off massive trigger in me, I was steaming mad for a day after watching it.
Becareful of the triggers which makes you feel good.
My triggers turned from sadness to rage.
At the end was feeling good getting a trigger, as it made me feel alive.
Once you learn something new..a word, a definition, an affair..you tend to see if everywhere..you ever learn a new word at school or work and then see that word printed everywhere for the next week. It was always there but you never noticed it because it didnt exist to you. I never noticed how many "sex chat" commercials come on tv at night...how many strip clubs there are...how many billboards of half naked women for stripclubs, etc etc are present until the 1st time i was cheated on.
The sex ads etc are all fake do not get caught up in them.
Its the real life that is the pain.
10 day out, wait until 6 mths out.
Just get to know triggers and worry less about the fakery.
So it hurts because I can now relate and don't want to relate. Don't want to relate for my boys and don't want to relate for me.
As a WS - when watching shows with marraige realtionship themed/affair/family - do you all feel "guilty" or are you all numb to the situation - that you can block it out or do you all need to change the channel?