Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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trying2018 05/13/2018

Today is Mother’s Day. My husband has me at his house for a few hours. Me being all stupid starts talking about what we plan on doing when I move back in this coming weekend. He tells me he doesn’t want me moving back in for two more week. We fight. I give in. So now I’m shut down. Not laughing. Not having fun. Just shut down. My emotions are shut off. If he changes his mind again....I’m done. I can’t...I won’t do it anymore. I made the mistakes. I know. But I’m trying to correct them. And he’s not letting me. And it’s breaking my heart.

calirn13 05/14/2018

What is 2 more weeks going to do. Bottom line he cannot make you move. But law enforcement can make him! If he is smoking pot with the kids in the house ect. That is just bad parenting. Granted it would prob help your son.
While he’s at work, move back home. Have him call the cops.
Really wondering why he want you gone? Revenge affair?

trying2018 05/14/2018

I think that might be exactly what’s going on. It we have counseling on Wedneaday and I’m going to bring all these decisions he’s been making up. I think he’s trying to hurt me. He was even supposed to have our kids this coming weekend and he decided he doesn’t want to. He wants one more weekend to himself. So I’m stepping up and being a good parent. Let him act like a child.

forwardmotion 05/14/2018

He can ask you to leave but you don't have to.

If he wants to divorce you then he should go ahead and do this.

It's not healthy for the kids for you two to be in limbo.

Either he gives you a chance to heal the marriage or he divorces you. The revenge affair thing will just make it worse for everyone.

calirn13 05/14/2018

Tryin2018, you are getting advise from BS’s ... positive advice in fact! Not usually advocates for the CS, but here we are... do not give him one more weekend. He is their parent, he gets to parent! You wait, do not take abuse.
Go on www.marriagebuilders.com
They have some good articles...
if he leaves you, who could blame him. But what he is doing is messed up for everyone! Has he behaved this way your whole marriage?

trying2018 05/14/2018

Yes he has. Our whole relationship has been about him. What he wants. How he feels. I know what I did was despicable and I don’t like myself for what I did. He has always been emotionally distant. The last few months porn, weed, and his tv had his attention and affection. Our son had a grand mal seizure back in September. I was the one who found him. I stayed with him in the hospital. I read him his books and sang to him to wake him up. My husband disappeared. He only came back when he woke up. I still have nightmares about finding my son that way. I tried for 6 months to get him to listen to me. When did he listen? Last week at therapy.

forwardmotion 05/15/2018

The main concern is for the child who has to grow up in a poisoned home and possibly repeat the sins of their parents.

You can't take back what you did and it doesn't seem like your husband is a particularly good example of a parent/person either.

For the sake of your kid you need to grow in character so while he may know of the type of person you were, he may follow the example of the type of person you can potentially be.

You husband has to make his own choices to determine who he wants to be and how it will affect your child.

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