hello,

I deleted all of the photos that were hurtful. I threw away all the photos that held bad memories.
And i keep one photo in hopes that one day I can forgive that person enough to look at that photo and not hold anger. I still pray every day for her, even though she has died, I pray that i can forgive her and know that she was spiritually sick and needed help and needed to have self love.

I pray you are safe and healthy

Wow! Thank you. I think I might have to delete some!

Me, too. I looked at photos from "that time" and every day since wondering whether he'd just left her when the pic was taken. Gutted. THEN, I realized that I was letting their decisions (his plus whomever else he was in at the time) dictate to me my life and the memories I held. He didn't want me when he had me, and now i don't want him, either. I agree with deleting any photos you can identify for sure that they were together; but give it some time to get rid of the rest. As the years go by, and they will, the harsh angles of hate and sadness give way to the soft roundness of forgiveness. (I remember when I found my mom destroying her wedding albums and family photos when she found out about my dad. There is ONE picture remaining of my childhood. ONE. I couldn't do that to my kids, and have them on a forum in 2035 saying this about me. LOL)

Another way to look at it is that, as the grownup in your relationship, your memories matter. Regardless of what the X did, YOU have the right to your memories. They've taken so much else, why give that, too? No. Better to get rid of the unflattering photos of yourself, and leave the rest for a time in the future as both a memory AND a reminder of what has passed.

Just try not to look at them. You may one day be very sorry you deleted them, for many reasons. Perhaps move them off your phone or wherever into the Cloud. I know I tortured myself for months and months looking at FB pictures and posts of both him and her and wondering what had happened right before those pictures. In fact, I still do sometimes, and it's been 3 years and one of his whores is dead. You will get through this. Just keep going forward.

I completely understand what you're going through I'm going to the same situation with my significant other I stopped taking pictures for a while because I didn't want to remember the pain of those moments, but both times he had an affair was during my pregnancies and then once while I was in the hospital having our third son, and I don't really know how to help you other than that you're not aloneI try to think about the Happy times within those moments that are painful to think about it doesn't always help or I try to focus on my children but I also know ignoring it isn't going to make it go away I hope this helps somehow I'm sorry you're going through this

I am so sorry that there are so many people going thru the same thing. I too am part of this club. My discovery was 3 years ago. My photos are all backed up automatically but none on my phone. I have taken about 5 photos of us together in these three years. It's very sad. What I did with some of my favorite photos was print them out and redecorate the house. When he came home and said how nice everything looked I pointed to each photo one by one and asked him if he knew what we were doing...… after he answered I then asked if he knew who he was cheating with at the time and how many partners he cheated on me with. That is his daily reminder for what he did to me.