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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Massive Mistake

Lukas420
Lukas420

This may sound like some kinda Hollywood movie but it's not.


Just over three years ago my teenage sweetheart found me on FB.   She was having some problems due to moving and a hubby with serious health issues.


I was about a thousand miles from them but had to leave my town.  Due to breakup. Since she was moving I asked if she wanted help.  She did so I moved to where they were.


Anyway to make a long story short after her guy passed on, we got together.  Feelings from the past were still there and still are.


My problem comes in here.  I cheated on her.  I didn't intend to or really even want to.  Now I feel guilty as hell and may have lost my friend...the lady I cheated with.


I don't want to cheat.  How can I stop?


Lukas



elenagon123
elenagon123
If you didn’t Intend to or really want to... then why did you do it? I mean everyone has a choice they make when the temptation is there. I think you need to understand why. If you really his old sweetheart than because of the love and respect you choose not to cheat even if it’s there. I’d say figure out why. Coming from a person who was cheated on it hurts feels like the person you love guts you out like an animal left to hang drying solo. So be cautious of this other persons feeling as well. Hope you figure it out
StormPetrel
StormPetrel
Just do the magic dance: stand on one leg, tap the top of your head three times. Now twirl in a circle and poof! You won't ever cheat again!

If you don't want to cheat, then don't. No one is making you. Cheating is a choice. Make better choices.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
You are weak, you will destroy her and hurt her over and over.
You have no respect for her, or the relationship.
You should be a man and leave. But you will not you are weak.
You got away with it, you won, you will continue to do it.
She will see through it one day. She will see how weak you are. She will see your lack of strength.
She will hate you, if she has kids they will hate you, her family will hate you. All of her friends will hate you.
You will panic, when you don't have someone calling or texting you. You will feel worthless when you are alone in the dark. You will always try to justify why you cheat, why you cant be normal and be of high morals.
People will see you on the street and at work and see you as a cheater. The way you look around with your eye will give you away as a cheater. When you talk in groups people will hear it in your voice that you are a cheater.
Your morals will allow you live our your life old and alone.
Without the respect of yourself you will never really feel love.
Live the life you want for yourself.