Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello,
I really don’t know where to start... My husband has cheated so much. He has pretty much cheated every chance he has gotten. And on top of that he has had absolutely no remorse. I mean, I guess I should blame myself for being with him in the first place. His issues go beyond infidelity. He has been down right abusive. He cheated on me while I was pregnant. He told me that I was fat and that he wasn’t attracted to me and that he never loved me. And up until then I have been in the love-bombing/devaluing gaslighting cycle for 5 years. Now I am not in denial about who he is anymore. And after calling him out on his lies for so long, he is starting to fess up about more stuff. But, I am stuck living with him. I gave up working to take care of our son. Now I work part time and am going to school full time from home while I take care of our toddler. I don’t have the funds to leave and don’t want to give up my education. I dropped out in my 20s and am a decade behind schedule. Plus I am going for clinical mental health counseling so it is also a huge healing journey for me. But, it is so hard to be around him. And I’m feeling so burnt out from the abuse, the pregnancy, the abuse during the pregnancy, and now toddler, school, and work on top of more BS! I just feel so broken right now. I really don’t know what my point is. I guess I’m just venting. This will all be over someday...
and continue to vent.
I do know its for the best, so i'm just waiting for the healing. The narcissist is not capable of changing so that's not an option.
Ya. Even now I find myself hoping that he can really change. He always has times that he is aware of his issues and promises he is changing. But then he always forgets or changes his mind, or tells me he was just saying that to shut me up. He has confessed about a lot of cheating and still, I don’t think I know the whole story. It hurts. I still do love him even through all the crap. And I hope he does get better so our son can have a good role model for a father. But I do not expect anything. And I just don’t have any energy to invest in this relationship anymore. Even if I wanted to work it out. It’s even affecting me physically. I’m exhausted and loosing hair my the handfuls from all the stress. I know your hurting friend. I am too. But I’m glad she is gone and you can move on. I have really turned to a more spiritual path to cope with this. You can give that a try. Nothing religious, even just meditation helps. It also help to bring you out of the brainwashed state. Anyway. If you need someone to talk to you can message me. Sounds like we are dealing with similar things.
It sounds like you are on the right path and in time you will heal. I forgot how long it takes. When the love is real as it is on our end, it takes time. I cant speak for your husband, but most Narcissist are not capable of feeling love, that's why they have no remorse and do the things they do.
I was in a 25 year marriage before this one, and I never cheated, but never really loved her, so when I left at her request it didn't hurt.