Yeah, that would definitely be it for me.

Unreal...

L~

Not ok to mess w/ someones job........ what the hell happeved to boundaries?

Yeah when I told him it's over he didn't believe me, but today I think he does, I called him to come get the keys so he could move his things.
I told him yes I still loved him, but I couldn't live like this with him constantly checking on me, and me not trusting him in the first place.
He was quiet, and I just hung up.
I'm sad, cause I trully did love him.

So sorry your'e sad, baby. I'm in R as of right now but, I know I could be in your shoes very easily. It's so hard to face living a new life.

How can I leave someone I trully love, I can't do it. Even though it hurt to be called a cheater, I want to see if we can work things through.

I wanted to kick my H out several times, but I founnd reasons to let him stay. I'm glad I made the choice.

Here is you you have him leave if you love him, Love don't mean shit if he doesn't love you back the way he should. If he is still cheating and causing you mistrust..... it's abuse. That can't be tolerated. If you are both trying to save the marriage..... then it's not over.

I wanted to kick my H out several times, but I founnd reasons to let him stay. I'm glad I made the choice.

Here is you you have him leave if you love him, Love don't mean shit if he doesn't love you back the way he should. If he is still cheating and causing you mistrust..... it's abuse. That can't be tolerated. If you are both trying to save the marriage..... then it's not over.

it's been a long wkd, I tried to keep us together but it's always been a relationship that was never meant to be. He was addicted to mj for many years, so basically he was under the influence when he got with me.
I thought this was my happily ever after, and turns out it isn't. I don't know who he is with, but I been hearing bits and pieces here and there that there possibly some one else.
I cried so hard last night because it finally hit me, I think I was very numb this whole time. Also it was my daughters birthday and I didn't have any money to throw her a party, not even for a cake, it sucked, I tried my best to be happy yesterday. I feel bad because her uncle promised her a birthday dinner and my honey was supposed to be involved in the whole preps, but since our breakup, he hasn't stopped by, called, check on us. He basically fell off the face of the earth.
I told him I would try for awhile and after a while I would just give up. It's hard for him to face his mistakes. He doesn't want to see me, talk to me, but he leaves all his stuff for his mom and me to deal with. It sucks.
He totally loves living it up with his mom. She give him money like its candy. I have to work for my money. She does too, but he's her only child. So that makes it that much easier for him to get money from her. She was giving him hell about not having a job at one time, because he was asking her for money like almost every day. I have offered to share money with her, but he told me no that she is ok. She has helped me out so much with everything from gas-fireworks for my children, she is not the problem, he is.
I cried so hard yesterday from a broken heart. I love him, but he doesn't show his love for me. It's all one sided. I just can't get over how fast he can move on. And I'm sitting here suffering and alone.
I miss him terribly.

ok he called just a bit ago and I told him I had to apologize to him because I been acting like a total a** to him these last few days. He told me I didn't need to apologize for anything. I told him that I am not asking for a reunion, that our relationship was all fireworks, and heat, and after it fizzled,we just kind of went south with our relationship. I shared about how I lost it because of my daughter birthday, and that I should have been the one doing the dinner and not depending on anyone else, but being broke I was depending on them for help. So I apologized to him for all my mean words. Now I need to make it up to my babygirl, somehow.

give me a hand clap it's only half the day, but I have resisted calling him all morning, even though my heart is telling me to call him. I told him we are not getting back together, because we are two totally different people with two different directions in our life, and we are leaving with a hug and a kiss. I called him last night and got his vmaill, and it didn't bother me one bit, I just said, I called to say good night, and hung up. This morning, I woke up and prayed for strength not to call today and have been making myself busy all morning so I don't bother him all day. He gave me a kis and a hug yesterday and told me he misses me. It made me feel good to know that he misses me. But there are things that he wants that I am not able to move forward with, and in my belief if we are not on the same page about things, and the other thing is I believe I don't fit his mold of what he wants in a woman, I am actually not disappointed in it at all. Just I miss him a lot. i was so confused about everything for so long, but today I actually feel on a positive note about everything, and sure about what I want. it was such a long road getting here. I don't feel all in a fog as i have been for a long time.
I went outside and ate lunch alone with out anyone, and it actually felt good. I felt a small amount of lonliness for a split second, but it went away in a moment. I am not completely out of depression, but still yet feeling better than I have in a long time.
Thank you all that have commented and gave me some input here on DS.

I was so proud of myself, i went to call him last night and it ended horribly, I now know that we are over, he pretty much told me point blank he wants nothing to do with me.
what to do with all his stuff?