Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Let's Brew up a Fresh Batch of IGNORE

shtmyhbdid
shtmyhbdid
A lot of times, when an ex, ow, om, or anyone else stirs up trouble, the best course of action is to ignore him/her, especially if (s)he is a bitter human being with diarrhea of the mouth. Just not even respond no matter how infuriating (s)he is being. Zero. Zip. Zilch.

Who's with me on that one? :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Agreed. I have brewed up a fresh batch of that today as well.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am with you and adding board members on that list as well.
deleted_user
deleted_user
ignoring as I read LOL
Lstecker
Lstecker
Not looking too good for me...but you all probably knew that.

L~
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know the right thing to do but...
directingpond
directingpond
It all depends on what's healthy for you. I do find it hard to ignore someone who is giving people MORE pain on top of the pain they are already experiencing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I love all of you guys for even having this discussion.

Hearing the bitter pain and bad advice that comes from it is useful to me (within reason), we all agree to watch out for the newbies a few weeks out from d-day, no matter how this discussion goes.

You guys are all awesome.
Cole50
Cole50
In general. I take people at face value when they come on here and answer their questions if I can. By the time I saw the latest drive by post she'd already left the discussion, so I didn't bother, and everyone had said what needed saying anyway and she was obviously not open to listening. But you can tell pretty quickly if someone is open to advice and who is either just a troll trying to stir things up among the BSs, or who is honestly seeking help.

What we don't want to do, I think, is take off off on someone who is more trolling, or just ended here by mistake. I think some people don't read the forum purpose, and just see "Infidelity support group," and think it is a group that supports infidelity. lol.
Seekinganswers1
Seekinganswers1
shtmyhbdid:

I agree with you. I have been going through something similar for some time now and I understand you 100%.

BUT it is hard to control yourself or to allow someone to treat you like crap. esp. after the way your spouse treated you. I am very sensitive now and will NOT allow anyone to walk all over me ever again. That's a promise I made to myself.
shtmyhbdid
shtmyhbdid
Trip trap, trip trap... I'm not listening, la la la la laaaa
deleted_user
deleted_user
Lol
deleted_user
deleted_user
Amen!
3GuysMom
3GuysMom
That's been my mantra from the beginning! : )
deleted_user
deleted_user
She brought up all the anger I hav over my OW-I just can't stand by and say nothing when someone is being so selfish to not care that they are destroying a family!
Lstecker
Lstecker
Hey Ronick,

I think I know who you mean and if you look at her profile, she is a mere 20 years old. Really. I just had to tell her to 'grow up.'

I hear ya, L~