Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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keeping sanity

notbrokenjustbent
notbrokenjustbent
In the months and weeks after discovery an affair, how have you kept your sanity? A lot of days i feel like I'm losing my mind and like I can't get through another day. Sometimes death seems easier. This affair shook up my life in a way i never imagined. My head spins in a hundred directions and i find myself asking for constant reassurance from my husband about his love for me. I'm anxious all the time and fighting back tears a lot of days. I just want my life back. We are working on rebuilding but sometimes it just seems like time is standing still. I just want my life back...
Learningskills
Learningskills
Most everyone does that. I believe it ismy mind and body's way of addressing an internal bonding threat. It is not very good for me at all. I read an article recently that really helped with understanding the whys I respond that way to it. Let me know if you'd like to read it. You'll get better over time.
notbrokenjustbent
notbrokenjustbent
Thanks for taking time to reply :) i would love to read the article if you have it handy. Part of me knows it will get better. It is just so hard to see through the hurt right now. Sometimes i still can't believe it happened to me. Three months ago i would have happily passed judgement on another couple trying to rebuild. But no one really knows what they would do until it happens to them.
refurb
refurb
I don't know how I kept from completely unraveling, went dam close though. I didn't tell anyone about get betrayal as I hoped to reconcile.
I wish I'd told my family sooner as keeping it bottled up was not good.
Protect yourself and your kids do not fall into the bullshit trap of protecting them from knowledge of the infidelity, protecting someone from the truth by hiding the truth is not logical
notbrokenjustbent
notbrokenjustbent
Thanks refurb. Can i ask if you have reconciled?

We don't have children... we were supposed to begin planning our family this summer but that has taken a back seat to this. I'm quite heartbroken over this as well as just a few months ago i thought that was where my life was headed. Now this is what i live with.

My parents don't know, but my brother does. How important do you think it is to share with those close to you? I'm afraid that they wouldn't be able to forgive my husband, and that him and i are doing all of this hard work rebuilding that they necessarily wouldn't be doing.
refurb
refurb
No we did not reconcile --- her choice,

I don't think that you need to tell all of your family but confiding in a family I think is significant. The cost of bearing your husbands secret is that in some ways you wear a mask, your parents will never know the blow you took but they will notice the "scars".

When I first found out .... For at least 6 months I didn't feel sunshine or cold, I was shell shocked, parents-family-true friends notice that.

I hope that reconciliation works out for you, I hope the right things work out for you, I believe reconciliation is possible