Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I've been married less than a year and already suspect my spouse of cheating on me. It isn't an affair but feels more like an addiction. I believe that it's very likely that he's been doing this for many years. It's like deja vu. I'm reliving the nightmare of my first marriage. I can't freaking believe it! All the therapy and prayer and heartache. I'm talking to a counselor about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and gaslighting. I've had my mother and my first husband engage in this abuse. I'm just beginning to understand it and was wondering if anyone else here had this with their affairs??
I'm just trying to pull myself together. I'm so wounded, and vulnerable. My spouse is a perpetrator, and preyed upon my vulnerability and woundedness. I'm devastated. I've sacrificed so much. Moved across the country, and left all that was familiar behind. I realize now that I'm not capable of attracting or picking the right kind of men. This is the last marriage for me which is a sad thing to admit at 49, but I just can't go through this again. It hurts too much.
Looking for support or any advice. What where the big red flags that let you know your spouse was cheating?
What does it matter anyway?
You are capable of whatever you want to be capable of. You can engage in negative self-talk, if you want. Or you can get a lawyer, pack up, and get out of wherever you are. You can create the life you want.
You do not have to sign up to be a victim. Chances are if you suspect your H is cheating, he probably is.
Most cheaters do gaslight. All lie. All feel entitled to their affairs. I suspect most are some where on the narcissistic personality syndrome spectrum.
I know how painful the betrayal is. But that pain does not have to define you. Be glad you found out now and not when you had 25 years or more invested in your marriage as well as a couple of
kids. Think of yourself as lucky.
I'm noticing people around are condo seem to be acting unusual as in THEY see and know something isn't right. The wife is the last to know, RIGHT? I'm so beat down from all this that it's making it hard to make a good solid decision. Will continue to pray. I will not accept this as my life sentence. I deserve better. If nothing else, I want to live ALONE. Maybe I can date later as in MUCH later. I'm so crushed that I can't think about another relationship.
I need to continue to detach and start figuring out what I can do - steps to get out.
Also, all this came on rather suddenly... his ED problem which followed arguments about a married neighbor that has been flirting with him. I told him that was not acceptable and suddenly, we weren't having sex. I think there's a possibility they are still involved.
He seems hot and cold - on and then off. This is very common for cheaters or someone that's having other relationships. The arguing has been brutal until lately and that's bc I won't argue with him anymore.
I'm moving toward accepting this (his cheating) to keep me from running in circles in my head. Now I'm ready to figure out what I need to do about it!
Repetition of past events in your life. Download the audio below and listen to it, it will address what you are going through.
http://media.elijahhouse.org/understanding-bitter-roots.mp3