Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Please help! my 50+ year old husband had a "kissing affair" with a bar tramp over two years ago. I know it didn't go any further because of everything I know now. he said she was just some cheap easy tramp who paid attention to him at the time. he's never had contact again and I know he still lives with the guilt. he's done everything right, I just can't stand the thought of him kissing me now! I've become hyper sexual since then, and I'm 57 years old now! Also, he's had trouble getting erections off and on. I resent the hell out of that! but beyond that, I gag at the thought of letting him stick his tongue down my throat now, knowing he was in her nasty mouth with God knows what in it! I also know that she has “sucked and f****d” anything in that bar! I want to move on because kissing is supposed to be more intimate than sex but the triggers make me want to vomit! HOW can I do this?
Peace be with you...
Most cheating spouses don't divulge the worst of the details. Saying they only kissed is on the first page of the cheaters handbook, I think. Once you pry further, it changes to only a quick blowjob. I am not sure you got all the details of what happened back then, and that could be why you can't even kiss him, because deep down you think there was more but for yours and his sake, you want to believe it was only a kiss. If he didn't get it from her, chances are he found it somewhere else. I hope I'm wrong but on averages from what I have read here, the kissing part is only the tip of the iceberg, and the biggest lie going. If you think cheaters suddenly tell the truth once caught, you're fooling yourself.
I wish you well.