Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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sas11220 04/14/2017

I found out that my husband had cheated on me after only 6 months of us being married, I knew the minute he did it. I had never felt so hurt in my life. We have been together since we were both 15 years old. We have talked and decided to work things out. Last night, for the first time since I found out, we kissed and hugged and touched, and it felt...perfect. We hadn't felt that connected in a long time. I'm confused because I feel like I should feel sick when he kisses or touches me, or shouldn't even be letting him touch me at all. Instead I feel more loved and connected with him than ever before. Is this normal? Am I going crazy? Is there something wrong with me?

betrayedtodeath 04/14/2017

It's called trauma bonding. It's relatively common, and no you're not crazy. Have you both been tested for STDs? Please don't risk your health.

sas11220 04/14/2017

Yes, we have both been tested, I would never risk our health, I couldn't stand to be near him until I knew we were both safe anyway

imrj 04/14/2017

totally normal, there is absolutely nothing wrong feeling how you do...dont overthink it and dont let it consume you...the problem is him that needs fixing, not you

MAB 04/14/2017

Everyone is right, it's normal to feel that way. I just found out about my husband having an affair in December. I thought I was crazy to let him near me. I still sometimes feel that way, but he wants to make our marriage work and I do too, it's just harder for me. Your not crazy...just take it one day at a time. Remember , some days you might feel close to him and other days you will feel angry with him...your entitled to feel that way. Your taking the right steps by talking about and maybe invest in joining a support group!

Jackiea1091 05/02/2017

I just left a post similar to this a bit ago. So my fiance (been together 9 years) kind of did same thing, he didn't physically cheat he didn't even know the girl in person just texting. He met her on an online sight anyways I found out 3 weeks ago. And we have been more Intimate now then we have ever been. It's weird because I should be mad, I'm upset of coarse but I just want to touch him all day and it feels perfect like you said. But with me when he leaves to work I get anxiety over what idk maybe the shock of it all is still messing with my emotions. We both needed to work on our relationship and my feelings are weird right now but I feel like we will be stronger then ever before.

SoHurt801 05/02/2017

I myself have wondered if i'm crazy for being intimate with the man who has caused me so much pain but i feel like i have never been so connected to him. Don't get me wrong - there are days when i don't want anything to do with him and i don't even want to look at him but then there are days when i just want to be close and never let go.

Lenoire 05/03/2017

Yes it's called hysterical bonding, google it, but it doesn't last.

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