Seriously think about moving. It doesn’t have to be across country. To another city. Easier said than done, right? It will never get easier. I dropped any friend on social media that was friends of hers. I didn’t want any incidental contact. If you friend asks why tell her the truth. It’s not healthy to keep reliving my CS affair by seeing her unscathed life unfold in front of me.
Ideally your CS should change jobs. But I am sure there is an argument why he can’t.

On the other hand, it's doubtful that this woman's new relationship will work out. Anyone who would cheat on her own husband is no prize. So she probably won't be around long. That town is YOUR place and it will always be YOUR place. Don't let her take it from you. Walk around with your head high. Channel your inner Wonder Woman when you see her. And then you'll be around to witness the train wreck when her life falls apart. Because it WILL fall apart.

I agree with @pfrey71. I think the best thing you can do is hold your head up. The best revenge to take is to show the person or people that hurt you that you are happy. Sadly there is a true pain in having to deal with what you are experiencing. So there might be some fake it until you make it that has to happen but please don't give that person any power over you. She is not worth it! She is the littler person (to put it nicely) and like @pfrey71 said, you don't want to miss the show when she gets what she has coming. Karma is a mother. Stay strong and keep your head up!!!

Thank you all so much. I do like the idea of moving. I like the idea of starting fresh. Of not seeing her. I also like the idea of staying. I feel it in me that there is a desire to be stubborn and 'show her' that she isn't going to win. I know she still is bitter towards me because I was the one who was very instrumental in her losing her job when she was working with my hubby. Like @pfrey71 says, it is tough watching her unscathed life unfolding. She appears so gad-damn happy. And it bites when I have had a rough year with my health. Part of me just wants to out her to everyone. Friends of mine who don't know about the affair visit her business. And the inner bitch in me wants to tell everyone. But the 'grown up' says, lets not stoop to her low moral level. And I have to say, @brokenhearted01 I feel like I SO want to witness her Karma...but again, feel like such a bitch wishing something bad would happen to someone else. I wonder if it will fall apart @pfrey71. Deep down, I wish it would. Would you 'out' her to others? Or do you think that will back fire on me??

I can so understand your thoughts. Don't feel bad for wishing her bad things. I can probably say all of us betrayed spouses as much as we know it's out partners fault we do wish secretly that karma haunts those OW down.
You say she seems happy. Could it be possible that she is putting up a show. She definitely got some karma her actions cost her her husband and her job, and people who know will not think vety highly of her.
Mayne she's not that happy but maybe she just want to act to you like she's super happy cause she "blames" you.
Your much better than her and she knows it. You have morals empathy and are trustworthy all thinks she ckearly lacks.
If she hasn't done any therapy she will clearly cheat again in the future which will cost her her current relationship.

Telling others wgat she did. I would be careful it could somehow backfire. However good friends of yours well why not mention it. If they are good friends they will break any contacts with her to help you heal.
I also think if you block her on Facebook that you will not see if she comments on a mutual friends post. But I'm not sure. If not maybe unfriend this mutual friend.
Hugs ur much better and stronger person than her don't ever doubt that

You're so right @heartache5. On all of it. It feels true for me what you've written. My closest friends know what happened as they supported me at my most vulnerable. It's other people that are 'friends' but not inner circle friends. I think the Facebook thing got to me mostly because the friend who's post she commented on, does know about the affair. And deep down, I think I was hoping that she would unfriend her as well. Which of course isn't fair. She can be friends with who she likes. It might require a brave conversation on my behalf with my friend.

I like our idea of blocking her so I can't see her posts! Why didn't I think of that? And she wont be able to see mine either right?

And yes, it would backfire me outing her. If she is happy, then, well, I guess every human has that right. But yeah, I still wish she would suffer in some visible way. And you are right, it is likely that history will repeat itself...

Thanks for your support here! I don't know why I didn't reach out in this kind of setting earlier!!
xx

I understand your pain. My story has similarities to yours.

First of all, focus on yourself. Take care of yourself. If you feel good, you will look good, and you will project that confidence. Hold your head high. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

If you want to move, then move. But do it for the right reasons. I wouldn't want you to feel you ended up someplace because of her. I would love to move, too, but the pieces just haven't fallen into place yet. This is an option you might want to explore though.

I don't know if you need to keep tabs on her or not. This depends on if you trust your husband or not. You decide.

As for FB, block the bitch. You do not want her stalking you.

As for your friends and FB, you could tell them to support you in your quest for privacy.

As for this guy whose children attend the same school as your children - ignore him for now. Or introduce yourself to him, tell him you heard he is engaged to the woman and that makes you very happy. Then walk away. He is not your enemy. No, he is your friend. If he keeps her happy, she won't go after your H again.

Remember, their affair is not your secret. You do not have to keep their secret. However, if you do start telling more people, you have to think about what the repercussions might be for you. I am ready with a couple of lines should the OW's name come up. But I have not told anyone other than my most trusted friends.

As for her business, just have a standard line you keep repeating. Something like: "Oh, I've found the service to be bad there." Or, "The people there are so difficult to work with."

We all want the OW to suffer. I would like Karma to wake up and bite that bitch in the ass. Sometimes we do get lucky but honestly, the best revenge is for us to have a happy life. You WILL feel better if you focus on that. I did, however, create a Pinterest board with karma quotes, infidelity quotes, etc. I use that as my outlet.

I was stalked by the OW's friends for a while. It was very unnerving to say the least. I just make sure I leave the house looking good. I also asked my H for a big piece of jewelry which I wear all the time. I carry a designer bag. Before I get jumped on for being superficial, let me just say, it came back to me that the OW said I was "just in it (my marriage) for the money". So I decided I
would rub her nose in it. If I were in it for the money, I would have taken divorced him and taken him to the cleaners!

It's all about our "image". My image projects the truth - I am happy, my H supports me, is remorseful, and we are successful. So you need to create your image. It will ground you when you feel threatened or triggered.

Think less about her, more about you, your husband, and your kids.

Yes block her for sure if you block her she can't see anything from you. Needles to say ur hubby should have already blocked her. I also do think if you block her you won't see her comments on friends posts but that I'm not 100 percent sure about. She wont see yours at least. It's very satisfying to push the block button lol. And a good test for ur hubby. His only right reaction would be to click the block button right away.
Good luck don't let the bitch get you down ur a much better person than her

@StormPetrel, thank you! Some really great perspectives in here. I need to hear them. What really hit me was, "Think less about her, more about you, your husband, and your kids". If truth be known, I have invested a bit of time stalking her insta account and every time, I feel shit seeing her so happy with her new life, after she threw a grenade in to mine.

I still wonder if her new partner even knows what she did. I have fantasies about just saying in the car park at school pick up, "Oh I see you are engaged to OW...Well, I'm C and I'm the wife of the man she had an affair with when she was in her last marriage. Nice to meet you. See you around I guess...."

AND there it is...."think less about her......". Thanks hun, I needed that! xx

@heartache5; YES! I have blocked her! And hubby did 3 years ago. I didn't block her back then so I could 'keep and eye on her'. I am moving on....

Oh and hubby and I went to look at some land 50kms away from where we are with the look to build a new house and move away...still exploring options, and no decisions have been made obviously, but it did feel good to consider starting fresh!

It's not some mystical karma that will bring ruin to this woman. The fact that she is self destructive, dishonest, and selfish person that will destroy her life and everyone around her.

I do hope the fiancée knows what he is getting himself into. Given that she isn't the honest type, I would suggest he probably doesn't know. Otherwise he is about to lose half of everything he has worked for to this pro.

Just remember she is creating an image. She is posting only good things (true or not).
Don't take her bait. It does not help you.

You CAN introduce yourself to this guy. But only introduce yourself. Do NOT say you are married to her affair partner. You will look ridiculous. Let him wonder why you introduced yourself. Let him do the digging. Always be nice. Smile. Remember - he is your friend!! If the OW is happy with him, she is less likely to go after your H again.