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I heard a VM he left the OW

only2bestrong
only2bestrong
Someone forwarded me a VM that he left the other woman. He said baby its me and I don't want you to start crying and getting up set. I want you to get better daddy is going to take care of it ok sweetheart. Don't worry daddy is going to take care of you for the rest of your life. I promise. WTF? He doesnt even take care of his 2 son's. She is divorced and I told her he came over and slept with me 3 wks ago and she still took him back.
Blindsidedagain
Blindsidedagain
"daddy is going to take care of you"

Wow, say good riddance to this weirdo....he has issues.
only2bestrong
only2bestrong
I meant she isn't even divorced yet and she said she isn't going to get divorced
deleted_user
deleted_user
why couldn't the VM come directly to you?

Either way, sounds messed up.
CopingJust
CopingJust
You know that old saying - those who eavesdrop never hear anything good about themselves.......?

Don't do this to yourself. The only one you're hurting is you - and the only thng that is important is your healing. The person who shared this voicemail with you is not your friend, and not doing anything to help your healing.

Having said that - if any man I was having sex with refered to himself as "daddy" I'd need to vomit all over him........
cbazan
cbazan
I'm sorry honey that your going through this, but I must tell you that you took him back also. ....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Right cbazan, sounds like this jerk is only doing what he's been allowed to do.

Honey, you need to REMOVE YOURSELF from the situation, entirely!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree. Tell him if he's going to be with the OW, he won't be living under your roof. That VM sounds really disturbing. Let him go, he's not worth your time.
only2bestrong
only2bestrong
He isn't living with me anymore I am not sure where he is living I guess he is living out of hotel rooms. I just don't understand she said they started dating the first of April and that is when i found out about the OW in PA also that he was asking her if she loved him but for him to only have known this chick for what 2 months and they are already saying I love you and he said he is going to take care of her for the rest of her life what kind of crap is that?
Lstecker
Lstecker
If any man that I dated referred to himself as my 'daddy,' as if I were some child in need of him, I would probably pop the guy in the face and walk.

He's some twisted shit, isn't he? And better off out of your life completely.

Honey, you need to stop doing this to yourself. It doesnt matter what he does with whomever anymore, or how fast he decides to dig himself under the dirt, or how stupid he is in his choices, or HER, for that matter.

Wash your hands of the wierdo and be done with it.

'It doesn't matter what the fool does anymore. I am done.' And then, be done.

L~
cbazan
cbazan
@ Only2best...We are here for you nonetheless. Which ever way you decide to go. My prayers are with you love. Removing yourself is easier said than done. BUT YOU CAN DO IT. He obviously doesn't know what boundaries and respect are. Love yourself honey. Take care of you.