Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Suspected EA but husband denied and denied everything cause they were "just friends" until I caught a text message from OW talking about his emails to her and how she felt about him. So here we are as lies starts to unravel, I knew about the calls and text messages (not the content but the constant communication), so now I know about the emails he was sending her in a secret email account that I haven't been able to access. Then earlier this week I discovered his Skype account which by the way "he didn't have an Skype account" and that he was Skyping with her while he was away from home. They put so much effort into the OP and not on their marriages. Phone calls, text messages, emails, Skyping and those are the ones that I discovered and know about. I feel robbed cause she took away the time that was supposed to be mine and my H for giving away the attention that was supposed to be for me. The emailing really cuts deep cause I always use email to communicate how I feel cause it's easier to write when I'm calm and think about what I'm going to say and I have asked my H a million times to email me how he felt if he wasn't comfortable talking about his feelings and emotions and then he goes and writes to her about how he feels about her. WTF?
Does anybode else feel robbed? what are some of the lies they told?
Does anybode else feel robbed? what are some of the lies they told?
One thing I've learned is that all the sneaking around the CS does & the lying are a huge part of the thrill of the A. Makes sense, doesn't it? A vacation from reality & responsiblity. Wouldn't we all like to have that? Of course, but those of us who believed in our vows & loved our spouses wouldn't think of screwing around with another.
Another thing is, it's normal to hate the OP. It's normal to want to get revenge on them. However, these people did not make a vow to stay true to us. Our spouse's did.
Go after him. Make him take responsiblity for his actions. If there's going to be reconcilitation involved or an end to the EA you need him to be accountable. Don't waste your energy on the whore. Get the information you need from him so that you can make a decision on what is going to be best for YOU!
p.s. one more word of advice: If you are planning on laying out the proof that you have to him, collect it with care. Meaning: gather proof until you are satisfied and keep it close until you're ready to lay your cards on the table. Once they know you're snooping or feel threatened you can't imagine the lengths that are gone to to be even more sneaky than they are now.
Good Luck to you!
Until you have all the evidence and he's ready to admit everything he will continue to be angry and blameshift. Once it does come out, he'll be a completely different person, at least mine was. After he released all of his guilt, lies, and pain we were able to begin to heal. If you are looking to reconcile be patient and keep gathering your evidence. Hugs!
While he gave her attention I got rudeness, snapping at me and silence. He wrote letters to her giving her compliments and kind words. If I got a kind word or a compliment from him it was very rare and only in front of our friends so his image wouldn't be tarnished. According to phone records he text the minute he left the house for work and up to the time he pulled in the driveway. If I text or called him at work he was irritated I called because he was just so busy. Ya he was busy alright. He even had the nerve to say he was witnessing to her.
The cat is out of the bag, I confronted him, he admits to EA but he won't tell me nothing more. Just like 3guysmom I'll keep waiting for more lies to keep falling out of the closet. Things are starting to fall apart cause I keep discovering more little things that he would have prefer to keep hidden.