Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
My story is long I'll save you the boring but let you know the cheating started early in the marriage . I forgave as we had just had a son and we're pregnant with baby 2 . And he said he wanted to stay with his family . The stress of the affair caused me to lose the baby at 6 months along . Fast forward yrs many pregnancis and miscarriages. ..and weight gain . Then I'm told I can't carry children nor could I get pregnant after my last dnc . Lost all my weight one yr later I'm pregnant. ..carry him full term ... life's good at this piont. Then I notice my youngest isn't progressing as fast as our first son had... turns out he is special needs. My husband couldn't cope so he started calling dating lines talking to other women sex chat. Says he did meet them in person ...this has gone on for yrs . Then he started experiencing men ...and groups sex... till I just found out about all of this and sleeping with hookers most recently. My kids are grown I'm old 53 ...I could deal with this last blow so I tried to end my own life .... MINE! Why should I feel that bad about me that I would end my life ....because I have wasted my life it all means nothing ....only good things are my son's .
I'm so sorry for what your going through.
This man has messed you up badly he treated you horribly. You did not deserve this nothing of it at all.
Your not old your 53 still so many years left to build on a new happy life away from this poisonous man.
You didn't waste your life cause it brought you 2 awesome sons. He wasted his life he wasted your chance of being with a trustworthy man. But he did not waste your life, don't let him he's not worth it to think that.
I have tears in my eyes reading you tried to end your life I'm so glad it didn't work. He's not worth it.
Cheating completely crushes all of our self esteem that's why you feel bad about yourself but thats because of soneone elses narcissistic actions. It's not because your a bad person.
Your a good person you have morals empathy you ate an awesome mom and you will be an awesome grandma when it comes to that down the road.
Please promise me you seek help. Counseling will help build you back up.
You have so much to live for. You did a fantastic job raising your sons. You gave them all you had even though you were treated like shit by your partner.
Your sons love you. Your sons need you even if they are grown up. And when your sons find a loving partner and have kids those will need their loving grandma.
Please don't let him take ur future. Talk to a counselor and start building urself back up cause ur worth it
You didn't waste your time if you were a good mother to two children who are now all grown up. This is your legacy.
Your actions define your life and not those of anyone else's, including your husband. He will look back at his life in shame and disgust, but this is not your cross to bear.
Just remember that your life is not defined by your marriage, it is defined by your decisions. It takes two to have a healthy marriage but only one to destroy it.
You are in difficult position where you can either stay and continue to be abused or leave and allow your husband's actions to further harm your children.
The thing is that your husband has little moral compass if any and will be a negative influence on your children. The poison that is him can not be contained and will influence those around him.
Talk this through with your counselor to identify how it is best to tell your children.
Bless You Sister!