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I don't know how to move past guilt.

Luna-rose99
Luna-rose99

I cheated twice on my husband, the first time at the beginning of last year and second was at the end of that year. I hate myself so much for it all...I kept it from him for so long. I want to just die and let it all go away, but I can't cause I'm three months pregnant with my husbands kid. A part of me thinks he is only staying with me because of the baby. He has trouble saying I love you again but he can have sex with me when he wants. But I'm getting off subject, I can't sleep or eat or do anything without thinking about what I did. What I could of did or why I did it. Then I can't stop thinking about it in general. I sit there for hours thinking about how I hurt my best friend..how my husband is heartbroken and depressed cause of me. My stupid self. How I don't deserve this chance or his kid or just him in general. I feel like I don't deserve anything anymore. I pray for forgiveness every night, I know Jehovah will forgive me if I work on myself to draw close to him. But I'm having a hard time forgiving myself. For telling myself to calm down, to not beat myself up about it or make my baby suffer through it. It's hard, cause I see him down and beaten up. Then I go back to thinking about it, or I lay there by myself and think about it. Idk what to do anymore. I just want some advice on how anyone grew away from what they did. I want to be happy and be ready for my baby to arrive.  I want to change my ways so I can be a better wife and be a good mom 

Ramblinwreck
Ramblinwreck
Get professional counseling with your husband if he will go, and if not, for yourself.
StormPetrel
StormPetrel
You are going to hurt your baby if you do not seek help. When we are stressed, depressed, even happy - our bodies create and release different hormones. Some are good for us and others are not.

If your husband is forgiving you, then you can forgive yourself. Focus on creating a happy home for the three of you. But get professional help!

You can practice meditation. You can read Louise Hay. There is help out there in many forms, but do it and do it now.
LaPetiteGen
LaPetiteGen
Oh love, guilt and shame are such powerful influences. Forgiveness is always difficult but more so when it's about forgiving yourself. It is going to take time for you and your husband to move past this and the wounds that have been inflicted will take time to heal. I would encourage you to get professional counseling and would also say couple's counseling at some point would be appropriate. There is some deep reason why you felt that these affairs were necessary and learning to understand the whys will help you make better decisions in the future. Please just know that it is OK to put your shame away and forgive yourself- God will forgive you and hopefully with time your husband will too- praying you find healing and the means of learning from your mistakes and making wonderful new ones for you and your family going forward!
forwardmotion
forwardmotion
If you've truly repented then you have been forgiven. Spend your strength getting to the bottom of your own flaws with professional help.

Actively be a better person and adopt good character traits and act more selflessly and focus less on how you feel about yourself. Being less self centered/focus can be achieved by practicing empathy, especially with your husband.

Also I would consider getting a paternity test once the child is born. He needs to know that this child is his or not for certain.