Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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marriedademon 05/04/2016

Married for 30 years, to whom I thought It was the perfect man for me, caring, honest, helpful, good person in general, married for 30 years, recently I found out he was cheating on me with several younger women, about five days ago, I found out he visits adult bookstores all over town, also he goes to city parks, I believe he is having homosexual sex also I found several containers of Vaseline and several tubes of sex lubricant, lots of toilet paper. He likes to be out and about and not to be asked anything about his whereabouts. He does not kiss me nor hugs, touching and no love making at all. I feel my marriage is a FRAUD!

autisticashlee 05/05/2016

I'm not being pushy but you should get a divorce, does he hurt you. In the philippines there are many husbands cheat on their wives sometimes the wives are cheating. I hate how people like your husband overlook how perfect their recent relationships and cheat with younger and more flawed people. If he doesnt treat you the way a good loving husband would I say you should get a divorce. I will pray for you and hope you find happiness again.

calirn13 05/08/2016

What do you want? You can't erase 30 years... Do you have solid proof? I would expose him and get an STI test.
But first contact a lawyer.

Lenoire 05/14/2016

He's come into who he really is after hiding it for 30 years. It's not uncommon, for men to deny their sexuality and want desperately to live a white picket fence life. Yet deep down a wanton craving lurks that cannot be quelled by any number of pickets, and once the that pandora's box is open, there's no closing it.

You may still be able to maintain a friendship, if you can accept his homosexuality. If he's carrying around lube, vaseline and mounds of toilet paper, he's likely having intercourse with men in parks and public bathrooms.

Lenoire 05/14/2016

I meant to add, that I don't think, in this situation, exposing your husband is a good idea. It's not like he's having an affair, and it's certainly not going to turn him straight and make him behave.

Furthermore, he could lose his job, family and friends, if they cannot accept his lifestyle, and no one deserves that. Nothing anyone can do will change this man, so it's best to let him be to do what he wants to do, instead of trying to change him.

You may have to either accept it, or separate and go your own way.

I wish you well.

calirn13 05/14/2016

It really depends what he is telling you.. If he's begging you to stay.. I would expose, either way it's cheating.. Not necessary to expose divient behavior (i.e. Park) unless he's preying on younger people under 18... You could just say he's meeting people outside your marriage and you have solid proof. Please support me at this time, while we are working on our marriage.
If he's not wanting to stay or he's gay, let him go.. & get tested every 3 months for STI's
So sorry

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