Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

4,945 Members
18,074 Posts
0 Online
Relationships & Sexuality
/ Infidelity Support Group

Hurt, Angry and Tired of this mess...

crackedrock
crackedrock

Ive seen signs of infidelity for a while now...but a threshold was reached last night.  Husband informed me that HE needed "TIME TO HIMSELF"...NEXT MONTH....FOR ABOUT 30 DAYS, or so!




Trust me, I didn't just fall off the turnip truck last night!  And, Oh, YEAH, how can I forget this...he sprung that one on me 30 minutes BEFORE the arrival of a Roofing Company he arranged to meet with US. 




Its been bad from the start of our marriage, even thou BOTH of us agreed we would/could make it work, inspite of our 12 year age difference. 




We've been together for approx. 30 YEARS....been married for 20.  And HE NOW decides he wants " TIME TO HIMSELF? 




LAST WEEK, he informed me that he "has been" talking to a COUNSELOR(female, of course).  Yeah, RIGHT!  I asked who & what was her name, where's he office located, etc.  (just for the heck of it) and he stood there looking like the FOOL HE IS, and couldn't/didn't say anything....just starring at me. 




TODAY, I THINK I have found info that he has either arranged or inquired on a CRUISE....as the info. stated his ACCOUNT of OVER $3000.00 for this cruise, has been set up.




I've been thru SO much with him over the many years that I don't know even what or how to FEEL.  I KNOW I'm HURT,ANGRY AND TIRED OF THIS MESS...its been one ordeal after another BUT THIS ONE tops it all.


Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs my friend. Get a lawyer pronto. Financial advisor and a therapist would be a good idea too. Freeze any joint account and call his bluff. Freeze any joint credit cards too. wow is all I can say. If he leaves, change all locks and tell him to go and find himself but do not come back. You deserve better than that. As one old timer on this site said "If their lips are moving, they are lying" Cowgirl Kathi is so right. And if you see him, just smile, turn around and walk away. You do not owe him anything. You need to look after yourself.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • MelT2020

    Happy National Underwear Day - Aug 5th

    Posted by: MelT2020
    Last Reply: JazzyLady
    2
  • Tired

    Mild Shock Coming Back to Car

    Posted by: Tired
    Last Reply: billwfriend
    2
    I had gone to the grocery store.  When I wheeled my cartback to my car I just stool there a minute.  A few spacesaway a Tesla Cyber truck was parked.  I had seen it on theroad a few times for a few seconds.  But not close up.It looked like it belonged to 2126 and not 2026.  I wasgoing to take a picture of the car but the owners cameback and drove away.  It was an ordinary middle age...