According to the Universe this did not happen To You but For You, This is how it works,You have to retrain your mind to see this as a Shift not a Loss.The Universe wants you to know your value and worth and wants you to walk in that direction. Okay?If you release all this Energy back to the Universe, the Universe neutralizes it,purifies it and this will be returned to you,But you have to do your part.Focus on you.Drop thoughts of him- How? replace each thought with releasing energy back to the Universe and focus on filling and nurturing oneself.If you can commit to yourself on a daily basis to do this your 99% already there.Good Luck in therapy Love Light Clarity showering you abundantly!!!!!!!!!

You will fight this and be even better once you have healed.
Focus on yourself, vent to us if you need too.

Set your goals and work on achieving them

You still have lots of life in front of you. If you need to, start help others be better, you will see how much it helps you.

Your H is a liar who hid who he really is from you.
Trust that he is a liar.

If your T is not helping, find a new T. Not all are good.

None of this is your fault. You were used by your H.

It is sad. You hurt. This is normal. But with him out of your life, with you focusing on yourself and what you want for your future, you will be fine.

I was with my H for 24 years. I discovered his affair after one night he forgot to erase his text history with his W. (not woman). (rhymes with core). It took me about 4 months to come out of the shock. Your body goes into a survival mode, and shuts down your primary emotions. Once the shock started to wear off, the anger came. It was so good,, it meant that I was starting to heal. You will find this to as long as you can distance yourself from this man who has treated you with zero respect. He is scum. Let him go. You will survive this.. i promise.

In the first few months it is a hellish day to day. It happened to every BS and it is unavoidable until enough time has passed.

All you can do is stay as health as possible physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Try hard to exercise, heath, and a most of all try to sleep enough (as hard as it will be). The next thing is set boundaries regarding your spouse. If he is unrepentant or unwilling to disclose then ask him to leave until such time he is willing to.

Proximity to ongoing cheating spouse will only make things worse.

If you have a church and family make sure to ask them to lend support.

The crisis period is hard, you just need to bear through it.

Like usual- more good advice....
I am getting stronger for sure but the. I break down and listen to him again...then I get strong again...etc.
it will just take time and I appreciate all your honesty because his words and his actions are not the same.
I have been walking our (now my) dog a ton and working a lot...eating healthy and trying to sleep- The is so hard but I just got a few weeks of mild sleeping pills from my doc so I can sleep, I know that will help so much.
Life is so hard sometime.... here’s looking forward to a happier future for all of Jax q

Last sentence should have said for all of us!

I just joined this group 5 minutes ago and your post stuck out to me. I will be "celebrating" my 20 year wedding anniversary in 2 days and we've been together 25 years total. I found out my husband had a year + affair thru an on-line service where women sign up for married men. The places he took her (including our condo 100 yards from our wedding chapel) and things he did for her are unimaginable. We are separated and he is getting counseling for "love addiction"...I don't know if that's a real thing or just an excuse for getting caught, and claiming that he broke it off 4 times and was lying. I'm like you when I'm with him, I break down and hope that it can work. When I listen to others, I don't think it will ever be the same...we deserve to be with men who will love and respect us...I don't want to live the rest of my life wondering if he is cheating again. I am a smart, beautiful, powerful woman and I hate that he makes me question my worth. If he can't love me and treat me the way I deserve, I need to find the strength to move on. I'm reading a book called "Rising Strong" by Brene Brown...it's really, really good-check it out.

As for the sleep, I’ve found that CBD gummies help to tun your brain off so you can sleep. Take a couple about an hour before bed. And there’s no morning grogginess like you might get from a sleeping pill.