Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
So my wife and I separated February 10 so we could work on somethings and have space, we've been together for 17 years and married for 10. She fed me a bunch of bs about how it will make us stronger as a couple and as a family, that we would go on atleast 2 dates a month, atleast 2. I find out 2 months after we split from a secret credit card that she rented airbnbs 2 weeks after we separated. 4 in total to my knowledge every weekend in march when she blew me off and I had our kids for our current custody. How do I heal myself when she won't admit the affair, says they just met during our separation. Her story changed 5 times now on when they met. It dates back to the middle of last year sometime I think. Everything makes perfect sense. I know, my kids know, her family knows, her friends all see it. She has blameshifted and gas lighting me and told hundreds of lies. Says everything is my fault, I know it isn't.But she still will not admit anything to me. How do I heal if she won't admit? Her affair partner dumped her after they went on a week long cruise to mexico. She joiner tinder a week later and is going out with a bunch of random guys now. We're not getting back together and I'm filing for divorce.
crept up into the marriage-separation and space rarely just fixes those problems.Have you tried counseling? if not maybe try this.Her jumping
from guy to guy- is her own insecurity regarding your issues.Don't even
focus on this right now.You do not need her to admit- honestly for you
to obtain closure and heal.She may never admit anything in this lifetime
and if you become dependandton needing her to admit her wrongdoing
you are setting yourself up in a trap.Sending Peace and love and Positive
Energy and vibes your way.
She isn't a suitable wife or mother.
I would suggest documenting the flakiness of her parenting by saving any correspondence/text. Then I would get physical custody of children and the home.
Be a great man and father to your kids.
she's been cheating for awhile and had an exit plan
you loved & trusted her - no shame in that, she used it to completely phuege you
she's probably been manipulating you for a long time, easy to do to you since you were just loving & trusting, not suspecting
the manipulation and deceit is venom in your veins, it takes time for that to settle out
it takes perspective to see what she really is & was
you'll come to realize that you are still who you always were - then you'll be ready to pull yourself together
you may come to see how long she's been a phony turd (the whole time) that may knock you for a loop , don't let it, she was skilled at wearing her mask, she crafted it her whole life
you are so much better off not loving and trusting a soulless monster
Just remember that the opposite of love isn't hate, its indifference.
Let her head down her own path, it isn't your concern anymore. Kids and yourself should be the focus.
Life gets so much better! I too was blindsided, blindly loving and trusting - took me some time to get back on my feet but ended up meeting a wonderful woman who i married this past April :).
All the best.