After typing this note I think I can answer my own question. This is real. About 10 weeks into my marriage, my husband's ex wife called me and said she was sleeping with him again. Wham. I had worried about their strange relationship and I knew it was possible, but also knew she would enjoy causing grief in our relationship. For years, he denied it and made me feel like a suspicious psycho. Through our marriage of almost 20 years, I had my worries about other women and issues in his life. He's pretty narcicistic, selfish, self important... About 3-4 years ago he had to tell me he got crabs and tried to blame it on bed linens from his business travels (at nice hotels) I told him he didn't marry an idiot and the next day he "confessed" that he went to an 'adult' place, engaged in a homosexual encounter, one time, caught crabs, ran away from the place. So, we went to a counselor who helped me 'deal' with his sexual dysfunction, which involved a lot of self-gratification, and extremely pleading cries for me to give him another chance. He actually had us renew our wedding vows last year, in church! So, yesterday, I came home and he didn't hear me come in. I walked up to him sitting at his PC and he did a couple of quick clicks and I had obviously startled him (like a boss catching an employee looking at something they shouldn't have). I went upstairs and about 10 minutes later, went back down stairs, this time, saw what he had up, and it was a chat size window. He again did the double click, what are you doing??? crud. So I calmly said, what are you doing now? About 20 minutes later he came up with an excuse of he was trying to book a reservation for Mothers' day for brunch. A surprise! Right. I had been getting that feeling again, asking him if everything was alright, getting the 'sure' answer. And now this. It's pretty obvious that he's back into it again. It is just so exhausting.