Can you ever truly move past an A, do we ever truly go back to who we once were , in our marriage or relationships, I've heard that it takes any where from 6 months to 2 years these are just statistics, to finally move past it, but do we every truly "move past " it. or do we spend the rest of our lives wondering when the next shoe is going to drop or walking on eggshells waiting for it to happen again, waiting for the rug to be pulled out from under us, my brother has been dealing with the same issure for 10 years, he said it's always there in the back of his mind, how many cheaters are really sorry for thier actions, if they did it once , what's to stop them from doing it again and again, when do we stop feeling like victims, and begin to live our lives I Know it's only been roughly 8 weeks for me and its still pretty fresh, my H want's to just forget it ever happened and he thinks everything is fine, how can it be fine, when I am still trying to figure out what the Hell happened, he set out to cheat, he made comments that he was curious, and that we had been together for so long almost 15 years, , when everything is said and done, he found that it was really not what he wanted and he wanted his wife and kids and our old life , where does that leave me, or any spouse, so you were just testing the waters and if you liked it you were going to walk out on your family, but instead you found out that it was not what you wanted, Im just afraid that there is never really a way out of this, that's all going to be there like a big elephant in the room, everytime they are late coming home from work, or their cell phone rings, wondering what they are doing who they are talking to, are they getting to friendly with another co worker, there is so much baggage that comes along with an A that the cheaters don't realize that. He's not the same person I fell in love with and married, and started a family with, he can't understand that, We are not the same people we were 2 years ago, Does anyone know anyone who has moved past this and found a way to make it work, or is making it work , what do you with all the unasnwered questions, thoughts, feelings,
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