Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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How do I get through this?

ab-123
ab-123

I was in a serious relationship for six and a half years. This man was the love of my life. I loved him with my heart and soul. He was my everything. We wanted to get married and have a baby. Everything was fine and I was happy. He cheated on me with someone he met from work. I was devastated but I wanted to get through it. He told me he needed time to think about everything. We took some time apart and didn't really speak much. When we did speak he would tell me that he's trying to figure this all out and that he still loves me very much. He spoke to me as if there was a chance for us to be together again. He gave me hope. But when I thought I couldn't possibly break anymore, another bomb was dropped on me. While he was taking "time to think", he was living with the woman he cheated on me with. He was living with her and having a relationship with her. He lied to me and gave me false hope of us ever being together again. It's been two months since this all happened and every day is still so hard. The man that I love chose the woman that the cheated on me with and is now in a relationship with her. I still love him so much and I am so heartbroken and in so much pain that he is with her. Every day I think about the fact that he is with her, that he sleeps with her, touches her, and kisses her and it breaks me. When will the pain go away? How will I get through this? 

sjs777
sjs777
you'll get through it one day at a time, and when its too much to handle, minute by minute. Seek support be it counselling, friends or family you can trust, or make new ones. Force yourself to do things for you. Embrace things which make you happy (funny movie, comedian, reading, dancing, singing, a bbq with friends, exercise, a new or old hobby, take a course...). Always know you're never alone and things do get better
Lenoire
Lenoire
I'm sorry you are going through so much pain. Where you need to place your focus is why you still "love him so much," after what he's done to you.
Nick2017
Nick2017
it's a normal and horrible feeling. horrible feeling. we cannot control it no matter what we try. the feeling of betrayal by the one we love is the most painful one. There are steps to get through this.
1. think of him as a bad person - a devil in disguise.
2. think of him as 30 years from now - an old man, with no one to take care of, no one to talk to, living in nursing home, confined to a wheelchair.
3. think of you being blessed that this devil has let you go out of his grips. He is tricking another woman now. or maybe another woman is tricking him. either way, you are safe. think of this as your lucky day.
4. Now think of you with him for the next 30 years. He will make you suffer with his lies, deceits, and burdens. Do you want this? - message me if you need follow up. thx.
calirn13
calirn13
The relationship he is in now is built on lies. Statistically speaking it won't last, if it does they will both end up cheating again.
Be thankful!
Thankful you didn't find out after you were married and had children.
Thankful that he didn't give you a sexually transmitted disease.
Thankful that you future children will not have a liar or a cheat for a father!
I know it doesn't seem like it now, or even in a month from now. You will survive this.
Good luck, stay strong... find the support from you family and friends. (Us here
ab-123
ab-123
I've been telling myself that you get what you give and that karma is a bitch. Karma will get him some way. And something that doesn't start well won't end well. His new relationship is built on lies and betrayal and it won't end well. I tell myself this everyday and it helps me get through the day
betrayedtodeath
betrayedtodeath
I'm sorry you're going through this. You deserve better! His is a classic case of wanting to have his cake and eat it too. You deserve someone worthy of you and he clearly is not.
tylerduncan28
tylerduncan28
Terrible, I just posted my first post on this website and your post was the first Iv read from someone else. I feel the exact same way. My story is a bit different then what you've posted but I know the feeling of thinking about what is happening or has happened between them. My wife was with someone 8 months ago and I just found out yesterday. I can't get it out of my head, thinking of her with another man. I feel your pain and I hope we can both get through this. I know you still love him as I still love my wife but I can help but call your ex man a coward just like I feel about mine. All the best to you.