Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
okay so I just got out of a horrible break up.. when my bf of 10 years cheated on me with his ex gf .. and he broke up with me th day before our anniversary ... I was sitting in the floor. And crying when the delivery guys kept bringing the huge cake I had ordered with our pictures on it ... I thought he was gonna propose to me ; instead he did to her .. it was so messed up cz we didn't have any problems or he didn't even look upset ;; or dad he use to love being with me ... but it been a year now and I decided to move away from the heartbreak then I met this really nice guy who was sweet and for a moment my heart break was on hold ... and then he tells me he is married with 2 kids (a newborn as wel ) I was shocked ... does this only happen to me... I told my self I'm not gonna be that girl who ruins a family - I'll be the same as the girl who caused my heart ache - but this guy won't let me be ... he texts me sweet things and he tells how much he wants to be with me ... the only thing keeping me away is my strong principles that I would never cheat ... I won't ... but I need to get out of it
I think it's a hard place to be in, having been there before. People can want to be loved so badly that they fail to see the weaknesses in the relationship.
I want to share something I just recently learned about. I am 36 and I've been married 5 years now, but it took me until a few months ago before I found out about this. There is a state of affection called "Limerence". (Watch this video:
https://youtu.be/GE8a6HzqsM4)
I remember feeling strong emotions toward people or having a few guys feel that way toward me, but it wasn't fully reciprocated. I understand now that there isn't just ONE person for everyone (which can lead people to cheat when they lose "the spark" and then they imagine someone else might be the answer). I also know it is possible to feel infatuated and head over heels for someone enough that you don't notice the cues that tell you they aren't really as into you.
The things I have found in my relationship that I believe help it work are:
1. I have a deep respect for my husband's strengths and character
2. I trust him to put my needs (not necessarily all my nitpicky wishes) and the needs of our family first
3. I believe he is a great dad to our kids 98% of the time
4. We might fight, but we are both commited to this "come hell or high water"
5. We both understand we are different people who aren't always going to agree. Sometimes we just agree to disagree
6. We both respect that I need to take time to do things alone to care for myself sometimes
7. We are both imperfect people who still deserve to be caref for and treated with respect
8. I realized I have to be loving and affectionate to my own self sometimes to meet my needs(i try to remember this but can forget this sometimes)