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Help ! What does the dream mean!!

chewdy
chewdy
Ok, what does this dream mean? My H just told me that he had a dream that i was married to someone else and never got divorced and then married him.He said everyone knew about this man who was in the navy except him.He said when he foundout and confronted me I didn't think that it was a big deal. H said that he had this dream last night and it bothered him alot this morning at work.. to think about me cheating !!
I told him that is his own guilt that is catching up with him! I really would like to sit with him and talk about the dream because he can't even handle something that never happened with me ( in the dream) But yet I am suppose to just handle the real EA he had with someone at work , and he still works in the same place, althougt they are in different departments. FYI D-Day is one months away and I am starting to feel weird is this normal? How do you all get thru the D-Day....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, I'm no expert, but I agree with your instinct. You didn't say it as such but I would say that his dream is a projection. That is that he is projecting his own infidelity on you by "subconsciously" saying that you would be a bigamist against him. I don't discourage you from exploring his dream with him, that is talking with him, because maybe he's trying to open up to you in a non-direct way (I'm sorry I don't know the history too well here), but do not take any blame for his infidelity.

I have to admit though, I'm not understanding what you mean by D-Day being in the future? I apologize if I have not followed something correctly.
chewdy
chewdy
I guess I meant to say that May 16 is coming and that is the day I discovered that H was having some kind of A.
I really would like to explore that dream alittle more with him. I am just angry that he is so bothered whne this didn't even happen , yet I am suppose to be able to handle how our life turned upside down almost a year ago.. it' so frustration.
deleted_user
deleted_user
O.k. thanks. You're coming up on a year of D-Day. Yeah, A Big trigger! I'm glad that he's sharing with you, but I think that you need to take a step back here. You are ENTITLED to ask about his dream if says he's committed back to you and you are committed to each other. He voluntarily shared his dream. It would speak volumes to me if he was not receptive to talking about it with you more in depth and trying to soothe your emotions over it.

Personally, to me an EA is no different than a PA (that's just me mind you because of my own situation) but I hope that what I am conveying is that he did, a year ago, betray your committment to each other, whether EA or PA, and so owes it to you, for as long as it takes, to work to regain your trust and comfort level with him.

Are you saying your afraid to talk through it with him because you think something else or new is going on?