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Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Healing Steps for the Hurt Spouse Cooperative Un

Cole50
Cole50
"The previous chapter looked at the general steps a hurt spouse needs to take for healing to occur. In this chapter, we want to take a closer look at the specific steps a hurt spouse can take toward healing with an unfaithful spouse who is cooperative."

http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2014/07/healing-steps-for-hurt-spouse.html
notbrokenjustbent
notbrokenjustbent
Thanks for sharing! I read both articles for the hurt spouse and unfaithful spouse. I really like the idea of trust on loan.

I admire how you and your wife have made such positive changes, it is inspiring.
RossHomes
RossHomes
Thanks for posting. What do you suggest for those who have the uncooperative situation and separated? The info you posted was good and I was just curious what was to be said for that.? I'm sure some things are obvious , but I assume what you have to say is helpful, nonetheless.
Cole50
Cole50
Ross, the next chapter is on that topic. I know. I need to get busy and get it up! ;)
JessicaLeighton
JessicaLeighton
So if the cheating spouse doesn't want to fully talk about what he's done and talk to you about it does that mean the hurtful spouse wouldn't be able to get past everything? And why wouldn't the cheating spouse not wanna talk about what he or she's done?
Cole50
Cole50
Jessica,

Each hurt spouse is different in the amount of info they need to process and deal with what has happened. If you don't get what you need, it can delay or prevent "getting past this." One of the, if not the most popular articles on my blog deals with this:

Narrative Reconstruction
http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/2013/10/narrative-reconstruction.html

As to why the CS may not want to talk about it, it could be several reasons, some of the more common listed here:

http://healinginfidelity.blogspot.com/p/help-for-new-betrayed-spouses.html#Q4