So sorry to hear that. I don't know anything about your situation, but I'm pretty sure nobody deserves to be talked to like that. Don't let him make you guilty for HIS problems. Hugs!

simple reply...... thats your choice......

I agree, dont let him bring you down.

I am sorry for your pain.

Could it really be b/c of you or has he been unhappy most of his life?

Sometimes we blame those closest to us for our own short comings.
He may have issues he needs to face that have been with him a long time.
You could say, "I am sorry you feel that way, what can I do to help?" Then suggest he get some counsleing or talk to a trusted friend.

Really...

I would pack his shit up in SuperWalmart bags and tell him to go find his damned happiness.

He cheats on you? And lays this shit on you?

Yeah, SuperWalmart bags...

Sending you support, L~

Hon I'm sorry ...But I would flat out tell him ,not to let the door hit him in the ass on the way out the door.

Thats a selfish cruel thing for him to say.

No matter what the situation is at this point,you deserve better.

I'm sorry dear, but this is nothing but a guilt trip he is putting on you..period. If these people are coniving enough to betray then there is a vast amount of other things they will do or say to get out of hot water, or make themselves feel better. After DD mine said he was depressed, hated himself blah blah. I told him he made the choice to have just a friend as he called her, at the same time lying to me without batting an eye for months.

Make a choice to betray and come back later for the pity party? No!

I wouldn't take it personal, it's like a child saying they hate you. I got that line before. If he's so unhappy that he wants to die... let him go do that. If he starts threatening suicide, call the cops. That usually puts an end to that sort of thing real fast.
And really... isn't there some sort of satisfaction to be gained that he's so unhappy given that he cheated and is acting like a jerk right now?

I'm sorry for your pain. Those were really harsh words that you did NOT deserve. My H told me he was unhappy and he blamed our marriage for his unhapiness but he was unahppy with his life not with me. Don't let him destroy your confidence....stay strong you are not alone!!!

There is no reason he should blame his missery on you. You do not deserve that. He needs to either get some help and stop bringing you down, or he needs to go.
Hope besides that, you had a good mothers day.

This could be his way of trying to manipulate you through guilt to get his way more often. You don't need to put up with that crap.