Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
So he left last week, finaly... Things are not easier but somehow when I dont see him I feel I can put my life back together. When I see him I melt and feel like I want to hug him and dig in his brain and make him recapacitate... but that is too much of a romantic movie. My reality is that he wont love me back and that he hurt me so much. He hurt me to the point where I dubt mself I was eve thingking I was losing my sanity.
My kids are taking it OK, sometimes they end up in this fights with me and I know where there are coming from.
My exhusband... wow, it hurst to write it down, is not having it easy, I can tell but at the same time it was his decition to end a 13 year marriage without a warning. With the excuse I love you but I'm not in love withy you, he jsutifies having a girfriend?
He comes home every other day, he takes a shower, picks in the fridge and does his laundry. WTF!! LAst night he asked me if he could stay I said NO and told him that we needed boudaries, that he could not come anytime he wanted and that he should look for a laundromat close to his new place. My house is not a hotel...
He gets upset and told me I was treating him like a dog for asking him for his keys. All I know is that I need to heal and get him out of my heart. I have my two boys to think about now. He chose this, he was the one to said he wanted out. Out means out right? My house cant become his landing place fro when he is not seeing his girlfriend.
Last night he left upset and said I was forbiding him from sleeping with his children. I melted and I said you are confusing me, this is not fair. please go. I creid all night, have not slept...
How to handle this?
Because he is a dog. The hell with his needs, they don't matter right now...just your needs, you need to heal. Be strong and keep up the good work. Don't let him manipulate you anymore. Look after yourself and the kids, that is what is important.
-HUGS-
Guachita, you've made the right decision. Taking your keys, and denying him access to the home, food, and laundry. This will be a huge wake the HELL up call for him and oh here's where you can really keep your sanity.
During Thanksgiving and Christmas! Let the boys go to HIS apartment for 2 hours each holiday and then back home for your fest, don't let that idiot manipulate you by coming over for the holidays to taste your delicious home cooked meal. NO, let you gf cook for you, drop the kids over take some RR then pick them up and enjoy your holidays in PEACE! this will eat his lying ASS up. Then, he'll be thinking with the RIGHT HEAD lol! And time will tell if your marriage will mend, but not if he's not putting in work!
He left saying that I was forbidding him from sleeping with his kids, that I was being unfair. I felt bad, I was so close to give in but I told him to leave.
He cares so much about his kids that he does not even call them to say good night everyday. Too busy using his "head" I guess. I need to think with anger in order to stick to my wants otherwise he melts me. I cant believe I still love him. How in the world it his possible after all the betrayal and lies and disrespect???