Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Its been a very very long time since I have been on here. DD was February 27, 2011. Things are going well, my SO and I are stronger than ever and learned from our mistakes by communicating, but for some reason I am having a hard day. Today is our wedding anniversary and I have not wanted to celebrate it since DD, but it doesn't make it any easier that it is also valentines day. Its just a constant reminder that I no longer want to acknowledge this day. Usually I am fine and just move through the day, but today has been hard. With DD and our anniversary so close together I just feel down.
I feel like I can't talk about my feelings with anybody because people who have not been through this don't understand the pain that comes with a spouse that has cheated. Yesterday I was making dinner and just had this shooting emotion of anger hit me and just broke down crying about it and it has been i don't know even know how many years since I have cried about this.
I just wish I had somebody to talk to about this. I don't want to be judged for feeling an emotoin when its been so long since it happened. I hate that it can make me feel this way still to this day eventhough we are in a good place and are happy. I remember coming into this group when I was lost after DD and it helped and I am hoping I could get some encouraging words today like I did those many years ago. This group got me through a lot of hard times.
We don't celebrate either one anymore, but life goes on. These dates are truly meaningless in of themselves.
People don't celebrate birthdays of those who have died and it goes the same for relationships of the past.
The relationship you have now a new one that followed the death of your previous relationship. Focus on the day to day and let these hallmark funded days just pass as any other day.
Realize that it is you that is allowing society/others to put a personal emphasis on these days. Treat it like any holiday you don't have any attachment to.
My month is October... I hate the month and anything that has to do with it. Last year was tough... but I went to my H and he makes me feel better. He’s genuine, knows not to talk me down from the emotional ledge ... just hold me and tell me he loves me.
Talk to your husband.. tell him what you need from him
I am going to pray for you and I wish you happy thoughts..
don't feel bad about how you feel.
I can't tell if it is just anxiety or if something is still going on. I get so upset, too, just remembering all he put me through. And for what? While he loved the attention, the risk-taking, he never loved her. If he wanted her, there is nothing I could do to keep him. He's still here.
Get as much comfort and reassurance from him as you can. In the meantime create your own coping mechanisms. It's really all you can do.