Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Mauszer 10/30/2009

I was crying uncontrollably in my office and she came down to see me. I told her I feel like I have nothing left, and that I will never be happy again. We talked about the possibility of separation or divorce. She said she would support me if that is what it took for me to be happy after what she did. I just don't know... I am really not sure if I will ever be able to forgive her, or survive months and months of this emotional torment.

deleted_user 10/30/2009

Please do not make any decision quickly. Also, do not say anything harmful to your wife. These are the mistakes I have made.

If you can, just wait. I feel the time is in your favor.

deleted_user 10/30/2009

Don't play this out at work. When you feel out of control - leave the office and get it together.

Mauszer 10/30/2009

Fortunately I run the show, so I can always close my door and escape for a bit. Just not sure how to be OK these days.

sfsoccermom 10/30/2009

I know that feeling all too well. Had to leave work many days at the beginning to get myself together. You do not need to make a decision today or tomorrow for that matter. You need to do what will make you happy and be able to enjoy life again. Nothing is etched in stone at any point. Things can always be changed.

deleted_user 10/30/2009

I agree...try to wait it out...let every emotion that you feel OUT....time will tell what you need to do. You don't want to leave, get a divorce and then regreat it years later when it's too late. And know that this is not an overnight healing process....I know how you are feeling. I feel like another "bad" day is right around the corner for me! HANG IN THERE!

deleted_user 10/31/2009

M - hang in there! i know it's so hard right now. D-Day wasn't that long ago was it? Every day I wonder if I should stay or go and it's been 3 months for me. Honestly, it goes easier after the first 2 months.... easier to just sit and wait and see if we can work things out. Tell you self this "I'm sticking around to see IF we can work this out". That takes the pressure off of making a decision right now. You've said you both love each other still, that's a good thing. I hope you find the solution that will lead to your happiness. I'm trying to figure that out myself. Hang in there!

Lstecker 10/31/2009

Have to pipe up here. I really don't think anyone can make good, solid choices in this frame of mind. Not when you are this hurt or this angry.

But that is just me.

You are talking about making some huge decisions with your life in a 'not good' frame of mind. Too many emotions are at play right now.

Any way you can put some distance there, agreed it's needed, without making a big decision like this?

Just my two cents, L~

slwaite 11/02/2009

M - I fully understand where you are at right now. My husband told me 2 weeks ago about his affair that only ended the day after he told me. I still don't trust him and I cannot seem to get passed it. I also have good days where I don't cry at all but then some days where all I want to do is cry. I can tell you that I still do love him very much even though he has ripped our family apart.

I am willing to try even though I know this is going to be the hardest thing I have ever done. I can't just throw away a 16 yr. marriage. I do know that if you love her, try! Hope for what can be is a wonderful thing and some days, it seems that is the only thing we have.

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