Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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JessicaLeighton
JessicaLeighton
My husband use to sext woman all the time. We weren't having sex. Here's my question could that be why there was no sex or would he have been getting some on the side? Has anyone experienced this? He won't talk to me about it so I don't know.
4yearslater
4yearslater
The fact that he won't discuss or talk to you about it speaks volumes in itself. Is he interested in rebuilding or saving the marriage? If so, he needs to partcipate and answer any and all questions. It would be an injustice to you to contemplate his reasons for not having sex with you without knowing where he is at in the marriage.
refurb
refurb
My opinion is that if a married person is sexting anyone other than their spouse then they are cheating

If you and he weren't having sex, it seems that he was getting his jollies with someone else

If he won't talk about it... That screams cheater

I'm sorry that you are with such a turd
JessicaLeighton
JessicaLeighton
4yearslater he says he is but I don't know because he's done more than that and won't talk to about anything. I've tried several times for him to answer my questions and sit down and talk to me but he wont he gets mad, defensive.
HowCanThisBe
HowCanThisBe
Follow the 180 on this site. Make yourself strong and then make decisions from a point of strength.
4yearslater
4yearslater
Time for the 180 for sure. In addition - I'd give him Josephs Letter (you can find it here: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/healing_library/confrontation/joseph.asp)
JessicaLeighton
JessicaLeighton
4yearslater I did give him Josephs letter and it didn't help
Jason21
Jason21
180 for sure. Thats all.
Wish you the best sorry you are here.