First look at my journal... It was from a couple weeks ago.. Apps... All apps have a way of contacting someone.. eBay, letgo, Pinterest, daily strength, look at his apps!

Hi Cali, thanks for responding. I can't look at your journal, it won't allow me to, but I never thought of what you said . The only problem is you need passwords for these apps don't you??

Getting Information
start by updating his icloud account, daily. Take CSs phone
>settings
>icloud
>back up
>make sure it is on... Back up now (i hope it has been on already)

Next ...
>settings
>privacy
>location services
>system services
>frequent locations (i hope this has been one also)
scroll down

click on each history if there is a location that is frequented ... say more than 5+ times it should be a place you know he goes... gym, home, work... ect... if not you may need an explanation

Settings
>Safari
>Advanced
>Website Data
>if he doesn't delete it often or at all there will be a lot of websites on here
>even some he doesn't go to anymore
>but I would look at them.. if it is there he clicked on them, there are add sites that are attached to other sites... so if there is say, porn, dating websites ect... he was the one that clicked on it.
now for the texts and other apps ect on his phone... snap chat not sure you can get that info but this website will get lots of stuff:
just remember it may not come in order exactly..

http://www.teensafe.com/

you have to make up a birth date so your CS appears your child...

you need his apple ID and password

now if your CS really has nothing to hide they will be willing to give you all this information..... do not necessarily tell him what site you are getting this from.
You can see deleted texts as well as current texts
you can see his contacts, websites visited, apps on is phone, there are a couple texting apps it gives information about too.
the other texting apps... if there are contacts on them it means he uses them... facetime, skype, tango, kik...


one other thingFrom a computer log in to CSs Facebook (in messenger sometimes if you delete your messages you archive them instead) from a computer log into CSs email, do the same... if your CS uses a phone and never a computer they are really not deleting them
Google Search popular social media , you can IM from them all! say I wanted to IM you... oh wait I am IM'ing you already... see how easy it is to contact someone, I could be a dude, but I am not as my pictures on my profile you can see me, I am the mom looking chick lol

Super helpful info!!!!

So my CS received 3 texts on our home phone (mobile) and he acted funny, about giving me the phone, and when I read them it was a strange woman, named Delilha, who offered "Daty Kissing" and GFE as her specialty, but try as I could I couldn't get her to tell me who she thought she was talking to, or what address she was supposed to be meeting him at tomorrow. I screwed up, I couldn't prove anything, and he denied knowing who it was or setting up the appointment. he's deleted the number, and blocked it. and previously when he's screwed up, he's admitted it, and helped me block internet, and other bits of his phone. Now I just don't know, I made him promise one more screw up and just don't come home, so of course he's gonna lie. Now i'm just lost, confused, and wishing I could track his texts - he deletes everything, is there an app to track his history even if he deletes?

Www.teensafe.com (I only know how to use it with an iPhone)

I'm sorry for your situation, and I'm sorry if this bit of advice upsets you, but I have to throw it out there...you know he is lying. You don't have to prove it. You are putting the weight of responsibility on yourself to prove he is lying, rather than on him to prove he is not. When you tell him one more slip up, but then let it slide because you can't prove it, he takes advantage of that knowing that as long as you can't prove he is lying, he can continue doing what he wants, as long as you don't catch him with irrefutable evidence. Hate to say it, but even when you have that evidence, he will deny it anyway. Don't get caught up (as I did) trying to gather evidence - it leads to disappointment (understatement) either way...you either know he is lying, but can't get the smoking gun, or you get the smoking gun, and he still won't come clean. You have received some good advice, I don't disagree with gathering what you can - but don't make it your all consuming task. You have to put the burden on him to gain your trust, not on yourself to prove he is above board. I'm divorced now, and I have no idea how I would get text messages from random women with specialties - that sounds like something he has experience with or researched. Believe in yourself.

Just because you can't prove it doesn't mean it didn't happen.

Time to have a talk with him. And get ready to toss him out.

I had to wait too, to hear it from him. Six months of him convincing me that it was adult students texting him. Or someone from the motorcycle group texting" I love you" as we were watching a video on the computer together. Our ability to delude ourselves is truly spectacular.When he finally admitted part of the truth, I was so freaking relieved not to be crazy, I thanked the wanking monkey.

Look, I didn't want to be that woman who had to check texts or comb through internet browser histories, becoming more frazzled, and more paranoid, just to maintain the status quo. I didn't need to be resented as well as disrespected by him.

Are the taxes done on a computer in your home? Do you have access to it? If not, that should be one of the things he readily lets you see. From there, they do have key loggers that can be added & he wouldn't be the wiser that it's on. Even deleted messages will be available.

There are also smart phone spying aps available. Do a search on them and check them out. They let you see everything he does on his phone, including all the text he deletes.

But be prepared. When I installed a key logger on the computer my wife used one fateful evening, I only suspected she was sex chatting online. Found out, yes she was, but also had an emotional and physical affair with one man, and was in a current affair with another man. I was blown away, needless to say.

Thankfully, we worked through it and almost 5 years later are still married, happily. But you will need to also put a line for yourself on this as well. Save the info you get in case it is needed for court later on, but this is mainly not so you can prove to him he's guilty (he knows whether he is or not), but so you can know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is still not transparent. Once you feel certain of that, however much info that requires, gathering any more detective work is needless, except if you need evidence that would hold up in court if your state is one where committing adultery would be a deciding issue.

What you have to be prepared to do is decide how you will respond if the evidence you gather indites him.

Quite apart from that issue, however, is the non-transparency he is exhibiting. That you already have evidence of. He hesitates to let you see his phone on a spot check, he deletes text, if he has an encrypted communication ap on his phone that you don't have access to, he doesn't tell you the passwords on all his communication methods, etc. In most cases, these would be a deal breaker, because if he is still hiding things, as far as you're concerned, the affair is still going on until he can prove it isn't. The way he does that is by being completely transparent, hiding nothing.

There is always the possibility he may have a hidden cell phone, secret email address (probably on his phone) or meeting secretly being very careful not to tip his hand. But usually if that is the case, he'll be secretive about things like his phone, texts, access to programs like FB Messenger, or other means of communication. You can only go by what you know and what your gut is telling you by how he's acting and responding to you.

Stay strong. Be firm. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best.