Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I recently posted here asking advice. I thank you all for your sage wisdom. I took your advice - feel great about it.
But.... I did want to just say one thing, in my defense. Some questioned the fact that I am still upset by the events of the dissolution of my marriage, three years hence. I want to put it this way -
if someone you loved, you nurtured, you remained with for 25 years was taken away from you by the deliberate act of someone else, don't you think you would hold a grudge about that for the rest of your life? That's all, I believe, that I am doing in regards to my ex.
I have moved on. I am in a new relationship. I would not be with him for anything in the world, but, that doesn't mean that the pain he caused me and his children has lessened or eased over the years. Am I angry at him? You betcha'. Do I want to see him suffer the way he makes his children suffer? You betcha'. I don't think that makes me love sick, forlorn, or stuck on him - it may mean I'm not a very nice person - but, believe me, it is purely because I hate him that I want him to hurt. No other reason at all. The same way I would hate someone forever that hurt my children in any deliberate manner whatsoever.
Ok - that's all I wanted to say.
But.... I did want to just say one thing, in my defense. Some questioned the fact that I am still upset by the events of the dissolution of my marriage, three years hence. I want to put it this way -
if someone you loved, you nurtured, you remained with for 25 years was taken away from you by the deliberate act of someone else, don't you think you would hold a grudge about that for the rest of your life? That's all, I believe, that I am doing in regards to my ex.
I have moved on. I am in a new relationship. I would not be with him for anything in the world, but, that doesn't mean that the pain he caused me and his children has lessened or eased over the years. Am I angry at him? You betcha'. Do I want to see him suffer the way he makes his children suffer? You betcha'. I don't think that makes me love sick, forlorn, or stuck on him - it may mean I'm not a very nice person - but, believe me, it is purely because I hate him that I want him to hurt. No other reason at all. The same way I would hate someone forever that hurt my children in any deliberate manner whatsoever.
Ok - that's all I wanted to say.
He maintains control over me by withholding partial alimony payments. Paying when he wants. If he wanted to "move on" then why wouldn't he just abide by the court's rules?
Best to you.
-TheRule
One side of me wants to say "forget it I can't understand why she cannot forgive me even when I am genuinely honest", but my rational side tells me that she has every right to be angry and not want anything to do with me. However, I don't think its healthy for her and it does not change my opinion about her. I still know and can say it that she is/was the most wonderful woman in my life(apart from my mom and grandmother)
I pray that she will find it in her heart to forgive me but I will never think twice about how she feels about me because she has every right after what I did to her.
If your girl is so wonderful, why did you lie to her forever and cheat? If someone us that good to you, why dont you want to do the same?
just dont get it!!
I came to the relationship with issues of commitment and honesty after a previous relationship I got hurt. Consequently, Lies and cheating were engrained in me and I always justified it. It's so unfair to her because she was truly an Angell.
ou can give these thoughts of hatred and nonforgiveness to "Him"
Our brains can't handle this. God can. Leave it up to Him to punish your ex.if he needs to be. If you hang on to the hatred it will you destroy you. You deserve to live a life w/out that. We only have 1 you know. I implore you to say this prayer every day. God I lay this at your feet.... I am too weak to conquer this. After you give this to him. please don't take it back