I demanded he let me look further into his phone and open gling.com profike. He claims the profile doesn't exist any longer as its been deleted. He also refuses to allow me access to his phone for thorough check because he claims no matter what I find, I won't believe him & it changes nothing

I'm ready to leave, although I typically take care of our daughter while he works. Lately, he doesn't return home from work until sometimes 8pm in the evening. Over it and tired if being taken advantage of. I gave him ultimatum to give me access to his phobe, come clean re:fling.com, & give me all his sign on info for the site

Also, on a, work trip he decided to drop $400 on duty free products and lied to me about it, several times. I kept getting a weird feeling about the elaborate story he was telling me about how hrle 'found' the item in storsfe, eyc. and eventually caught him in his own lie

You ruined the surprise
He was going to take you to a one hour hotel

To me, that shows how much of a creep he is
Instead of just coming clean
He lies to you
Try's to put a guilt trip on you

Leave before he gives you a disease and further heartbreak

He's full of crap totally busted & I feel like throwing up and punching him in the face

I would leave--like yesterday---you deserve better treatment than this. Evidently he does not value the marriage (and that is an understatement).

Clearly no remorse or respect for you. Either pack up his crap and toss him out or leave as fast as you can. You are worth more than this. You DESERVE better. Good luck.

Coming from someone who cheated and lied for 3 years, your husband is still lying to you. If the story sounds unbelievable and elaborate it is, if he won't let you check his phone etc. he's trying to hide something.

My lies got more and more unbelievable and caught up to me, I guarded my phone with my life. I had multiple email accounts and a profile on a infidelity site. I have put it all behind me now and after being questioned to the point where my husband knew I was lying I admitted to an affair I had two years ago....he is crushed but we are trying to rebuild. BUT, I am not seeing this man anymore, I have no secrets from my husband and I am willing to show him my phone and computer at any time.

If your husband isnt' ready to do that then I think you should consider leaving.

"He also refuses to allow me access to his phone for thorough check because he claims no matter what I find, I won't believe him & it changes nothing"

What he means is, the things you will find he can't explain away.

Infidelity is a very traumatic event but when we put up with bold cheating, there's a lot of emotiional and mental damage associated with that that will require years of counseling to get over. If I was in your situation, I would be gone. Do not allow people to treat you like crap. He's not just having one of those "accidental" cheating thing, he's a full blow, bold, habitual cheater. Stay only if you are willing to be in an open relationship.

Good luck.

Even if you stay and are willing to be in an open relationship, you are bound to get hurt, as this is already hurting you.

Absolutely #11. Very painful situation. I kinda wonder at times though, if folks who know that their mates are cheaters and unlikely to change but stay, are somewhat saying "I accept an open relationship" without even knowing they are doing this. With accidental cheating, which is hurtful too, it's one thing - but folks who are on dating sites and doing all she describes? This is not accident, he's showing who he is. So unfortunate. With so many people willing to be in open relationships these days, I don't understand why these type of individuals don't pursue them and leave alone folks who are trying to be in a committed one on one setting.
Why live a double life when you can just pair up with someone who is willing to play by same rules. Go figure.