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Finding the good

gettingback2good
gettingback2good
There is no denying that what we have all experienced has changed who we are. Personally, I liked myself just fine before the A, and unfortunately I developed traits that are not what I would call redeeming qualities (although understandable): suspicious, bitter, cynical -just to name a few.
HOWEVER, there ARE some that I am now proud to own: patience, resilience, true unconditional love and the art of forgiveness - still working on that one : )

How about you? What has become part of your "new normal?"
mosue
mosue
It's nice to hear some of the good things, thanks for posting. I don't know that I've found my "new normal" yet...it's only been a couple of weeks since Dday and I'm still adjusting. I feel the same as you--I liked myself just find before the A and I'm afraid I'm now developing some of those less redeeming qualities you mentioned. However, although I already knew I am strong and resilient, it has never been tested quite like this. So I guess I'm happy to see that I'm as strong as I knew I could be.
pinkpony66
pinkpony66
I discovered my strength. My husband became a better father when he stopped living a lie. I have a marriage where I know I want to be in but also know I can thrive without it as well.

I hope this post stays on point and positive.

Thank you for posting.
happymama2j
happymama2j
in contrast to the responses you've had so far, my H's affairs ended our marriage. our divorce will hopefully be final in a month's time or less.

however, i still feel there have been good changes for me in spite of all the pain and anguish of the past 18 months since Dday.

-i am far stronger than i ever knew i could be.
-i am successfully and happily raising my son alone (H has nothing to do with him, he'd rather abuse alcohol and chase loose women than see his son. his loss.)
-i am more grateful for the good things in my life.
-i am so much closer to my family.
-i have a clear picture of what i am worth and how i should (and shouldn't) be treated.
-i am free of someone who did not honor and respect me the way he should.
-i am pursuing hobbies and interests that were never "allowed" before.
-there are still setbacks, but overall things are getting better for myself and my son.