Ok so this past week we were on vacation and a friend I work with has a sister that works in the same hospital as H .It just so happens that the person that i work with was talking to her sister and mentioned that my H was having some kind of relastionship with a person at work. Well the sister of my friend told her that the OW works on her unit and was seen often with my H having lunch and walking the halls in. This is the person that I thought that there was more than he was admitting. Finally caught in a whole bunch of lies repeatally over and over. The worst is that he was caught and didn't have the balls to tell me the truth. He was telling me that it was some one else to keep me from figuring this out..He had changed his phone number once about a month ago and called her from his new number. He admits it was stupid and this time we called the OW and he told her that we want to work on our marriage and she was being agreeable and said she was happy that we were .My problem now is after this whole time I thought he was being honest he was continuing to lie. I don't want to end this marriage but I really don't know how to even learn to trust him again .( this is the secound time) The question I have for him that he can't answer is " why did he step out of our marriage for this emotional relationship?"
We continue to go to counseling and have our first one since this new information this thursday. A part of me just wants to end this marriage and move on to possibly find a honest and thruthful loving person to spend the rest of my life with. I am so confused......