Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I was 5 months pregnant when my husband and I got married. Less than 30 days into our marriage he broke his vows by “sexting” with an ex girlfriend. He had her under a mans name in his phone, so when she would text him at night I thought nothing of it...I just thought it was a friend. Fast forward 2 months... he downloaded multiple dating apps, secret texting apps, hook up with local “sluts” in your area apps.
I find the apps and while finding them he confesses about his wandering with his ex girlfriend. He said he ended it because he loved me and couldn’t follow through. If that was the case then why download those apps months later?
before we got married I kept telling him i felt like he was being unfaithful and I finally find out the truth 5 months later. I give birth to our daughter at the hospital and he leaves me there alone for 4 hours.
He said he only downloaded them and neve did anything with them. He blames his depression on what happened. He said he didn’t tell for he feared he would lose me...Am I stupid for giving him another chance.. I want to stay together because I love him and for our one month old daughter.
Those who chose to stay and work through it how did move on.. how can I forget that when my husband left for work he was masturbating to another woman— then telling her he’s on his way home and to stop. It breaks my heart and I just want to forget.
But I need to say a few things. First he is clearly hiding his cheating like he deliberately changed her name to a guy name. He uploaded those cheating apps. No one uploads them to "just chat"
I'm sorry but he is cheating on you. Not just sexting. He has sex dates. I know this is so painfull to realize but he will never admit to what you do not find out.
I'm saying this cause you need to take control of ur health. Please please listen to me and all others that will chip in their thoughts please get STD tested just do it DO NOT trust a lier!
He blames his depression tgats bullshit depression can be fixed with counseling and medication. He seems to be a systematic lier and cheater which makes reconciliation very difficult.
It's not weird to see if you can make this work. I'm currently trying I have a 15 month old and found out about the sex dates 4 months ago.
However there's a couple rules for the cheating spouse: he needs to be remorsefull. He needs to realize the pain he caused you. He needs to tell u the truth about his cheating which he did not do yet. The whole truth not just a little bit to safe his ass like he did now. He needs to cut all ties with exes and any other women and block all numbers and Facebook friends that u don't trust.
He needs to be an open book as in u can check his phone and online accounts at any time and have all passwords. He needs to want to fix this and fix himself. So he needs to be open to individual counseling and eventually marriage counseling.
If he says no to any of these rules than he is not committed and he us likely still cheating.
There is no marriage to safe if he is not committed. He will treat you like a doormat and continue cheating.
Ur saying u just want to move on and forget. Thats not how this works. Ur past marriage is dead im sorry but tgats the fact. Its possible to built a new future but only with above rules in place. You however will have a long recovery proces to go through and he needs to support you in every way he can. Its a very long and painfull process.
U will have triggers that set you back for many years. Recovery takes at least 2-5 years. And it may bring forgiveness but u will never forget his cheating.
I'm sorry to bring reality to you I exactly know how you feel I am going through the same. But u do not know the whole truth yet and there's no moving forward untill you know. Be ready for a lot more hurt. And get tested asap. He risked ur health and ur babies! Hugs message me if you like to chat
I can tell you what will most likely happen if you stay. He will hide his cheating deeper and it will take years for you to feel normal again and quit waiting for some woman to call and stop hunting for signs that he's cheated again.
How do I know this....I was married to a cheater for 33 years when I finally got my divorce. I knew he cheated once and would casually look around and find nothing. Only those times when my esp would nudge at me. This man was the best I've seen at hiding what he did. He did his cheating at work and was home every night on time. Hours matched his paycheck. In the end I found he made friends in payroll who covered for him by sending out his regular paycheck. I found a lot more that that. Things so bad I was determined to leave him if I had to give up my farm and the life I loved.
Our daughter was married and took the divorce hard. She was daddy's little girl and she lost her dad from her life. All I could do was sit back and hope she stayed in my life. It took her three years to get over my divorce and be back in my life. Our relationship is good now but sometimes I see this sad look on her face and know she misses her dad. She has two adorable little ones now and we both enjoy watching them have fun on my farm. Her dad hasn't seen the little boy at all and only saw the little girl once. That is why I say leave now but your experience might be different from mine.
You have to make the decision that is best for you and your little one. I would suggest going to counseling for yourself. That is what helped me leave my marriage. It wasn't if I wanted to divorce; I knew I had to divorce him to find a life for myself. I refused to live his life of lies.
I would suggest an annulment instead of a divorce if it makes more sense financially.
Even though he dies sound renorsefull keep ur senses up. Often cheaters will commit to counseling just to take their goodwill while they still cheat or haven't told the truth. I'm not saying it's is but trust ur gut feeling. And still be safe and test urself for STD u wouldn't be the first women ending up with chlamydia and not knowing.